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Re: I hate being a mother. Anyone else? [Re: Cool_Friend] #566336
11/22/09 07:19 PM
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Cool friend, you even misquote my post, so i don't really think you read it right.

Re: I hate being a mother. Anyone else? [Re: Solalux] #566349
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[quote=Solalux]Cool friend, you even misquote my post, so i don't really think you read it right. [/quote] well not really this what u wrote "......My son was unwanted (by me) I considered abortion, didn't do it for the sake of my husband, who really wanted to be a father............" but if u wanna say u wrote that by mistake its ok . lol

Re: I hate being a mother. Anyone else? [Re: Cool_Friend] #566514
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I hate judgmental people. Can't you just let people vent without hating them for it? Seriously? Are you so much of a control freak that you must impose your thinking on everyone, even if it was out of an emotional rant?

As for not getting an abortion... What a sick thing to ask me now that I have her. You want me to look at my daughter and question why she exists? Are you stupid or really that insensitive? Have I not already explained that it was an emotional rant that I wish I could take back?

I love my kids. I don't always love being a mother, but that's not the same thing as not loving my kids. It is just really hard some days and extremely overwhelming when you lose your sense of self. But thanks so much for being such great listeners you judgmental a--holes.

Re: I hate being a mother. Anyone else? [Re: MelodyFor3] #566583
11/23/09 05:59 PM
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[quote=MelodyFor3]I hate judgmental people. Can't you just let people vent without hating them for it? Seriously? Are you so much of a control freak that you must impose your thinking on everyone, even if it was out of an emotional rant? As for not getting an abortion... What a sick thing to ask me now that I have her. You want me to look at my daughter and question why she exists? Are you stupid or really that insensitive? Have I not already explained that it was an emotional rant that I wish I could take back? I love my kids. I don't always love being a mother, but that's not the same thing as not loving my kids. It is just really hard some days and extremely overwhelming when you lose your sense of self. But thanks so much for being such great listeners you judgmental a--holes. [/quote] melodyfor3 my above post was not directed at u it was in respponse to solalux . u better raed her post to see what i was refrring u . there is no point in asking u that very question when u have already said u do love ur kid . but anyway i am sorry . lol

Re: I hate being a mother. Anyone else? [Re: Cool_Friend] #566612
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What you said was judgmental and very sick, no matter who you were answering to. This is a support forum and what you do is trolling.

Re: I hate being a mother. Anyone else? [Re: Solalux] #566623
11/23/09 08:56 PM
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Sometimes these forums are the only safe places women have to say how they feel deep down inside. It is a way to let out the frustration so that it doesn't get taken out on their children.

I would venture to say that even the most perfect Mom has her moments of wishing "I weren't a Mom right now". Like when she has the flu, and so does the rest of the family, the baby is throwing up everywhere (and so is Mom), the 3 year old is taking advantage of that fact by climbing up on the kitchen counter to get the cookie jar - and it falls and breaks into a bazillion glass shards, so he starts screaming, and Mom has to clean it up. Dad is knocked out on codeine cough medicine (or at work blissfully away from it all)...you get the drift.

Everyone needs someone to vent that deep, dark secret to. Doing so online to faceless strangers is easy - because ususally there is no jufgeemnt and sometimes there is someone else who has been there.

I know that with my oldest who has Asperger's I find myself (very guiltilily) wishing that he had not been born, or had been born "normal", because it is so exhasintg at times. I have to MAke myself count the good things that go along with his differences. And there are good things, it just takes looking with a different eye sometimes.

For you ladies that are suffereing - just remember this baby/toddler phase doe not last forever. One day they will be able to take care of themselves more and be able to interract with you. You might be able to enjoy them more then. Some parents just do better with one age group than another.


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Re: I hate being a mother. Anyone else? [Re: Chelle - Marriage Editor] #566703
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Thanks Michelle for your kind post.
But for the first time in almost two years I have felt terrible in this forum. People should take others people's problems and sensibilities seriously or get lost. I think I am taking a break. At least from this thread.

Re: I hate being a mother. Anyone else? [Re: Solalux] #566705
11/24/09 09:42 AM
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You can always PM me Solalux.


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Re: I hate being a mother. Anyone else? [Re: Chelle - Marriage Editor] #566796
11/24/09 05:40 PM
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Okay, I'm sorry, too. I get so defensive and a monster comes out. I'm a bit of a hot head and yesterday I was feeling quite hateful. Cool Friend, I was responding to gullivera who asked me about aborting my child. That really ticked me off and a whole barrage of horrible, mean replies jump into my hot head. I bit my tongue for the most part. But be easy on Solalux. You may not understand the full story and it is unfair to judge her feelings. Feelings are separate from actions; feelings should never be judged, only actions.

Solalux...you are among friends who understand your feelings. I read a lot of your posts and you are a very well-rounded person according to me (probably more than me, too).

Michelle, are you peeking into my windows or something? Holy moly, you picked a day right out of my life with the sick kids, flu, and cookie jar! You are very right and very understanding, thank you. Everything you said was truth.

I want to share this with all of you, too. This morning was a rough morning with about 10 meltdowns in a half hour with me asking God "why? why me?". After I finally accomplished getting them all in the car to go to the WIC office for the 2 hour recertification process, they behaved like perfect angels. We talked about our shortcomings and why they were cranky and fighting eachother, how to make it better, and what they would do today while I'm at work. When I left them with their new sitter (which is a whole other story of the nightmare nanny getting fired) they gave me the biggest kisses. My little Kayla gave me three big kisses and said "bye bye mama" with a big smile. It was a nice calm after the storm. And that was a moment where I loved being their mom because they love me so much.

Re: I hate being a mother. Anyone else? [Re: MelodyFor3] #566898
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Melody3, I didn't ask you to "abort your child". It was a question given your circumstance, and it came up b/c you said it yourself that you couldn't consider abortion the first time around b/c your twins were already 4 months along....so, that's why I asked my question. But you got all defensive and took it out of context. Anyway, no hard feelings here and hope it gets better for you.

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