I am new here and already feel like home. Such a relieve to find a forum in which people feel what i feel!
I am a happily married 31 year old, met my hubby when i was 21, married for a couple of years now and happy to be child free. So is my husband.
Wow I feel so liberated just by typing this. I have known since I was 17 I have PCOS (short version: in my case: don't have eggs). Which meant I knew by 17 that having children was not going to be something that was gonna be easy (read: NOT possible the natural way), my family and friends all felt horrible for me, which made me (remember I was a 17 year old) think it was terrible and devistating....So I cried a lot about not being able to have children.....but deep down inside I knew I didn't mind as much as the people around me but felt like a bad person when I thought that.....(I love getting older..and wiser...). Then I met my husband and I totally believe you meet people for a reason, we had a connection straight away. With a couple of weeks he told me he had had cancer and was missing a testicle and wouldn't be able to reproduce in a natural way and that he wasn't really fond of the idea of have children... WOW live can be so great!
So now you have two people deeply in love, both not able to have kids and both NOT wanting them.....somehow that was and still is hard to believe for our families and friends.
We just stopped explaining and started living our lives happy together.
It seems my body doesn't have biological clock, I don't get weak knees when i see a baby, I don't feel the urge to hold them and it gives me such a great feeling to read here on this site...I AM NOT ALONE! Thank you all for this! You made my day.
Last edited by HappytobeMe; 08/18/09 11:02 AM.
