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Hi Connie and Granny H!

How are you guys doing?

Connie, I love the pictures of your son, granddaughter, and of the baby blankets. I can't believe you made them--I wish I had talent like that.

How hard is that for someone to learn? As in, someone who's never sewn a button?

How are the first few weeks of college going for your son? That's nice that he's not too far away. I hope he is enjoying it.

Granny H, so Granny Day Care continues, huh? I bet the 3 and 5 year old will keep you entertained for sure! Did I read correctly that you'll have one each day?

I agree with Connie, I'm sure they'll have the best memories of spending time with you (though I do understand if you are ready for a break, lol)

I hope you both have a great weekend!

Connie, keep us updated and let us know now how we can can help during these next few weeks and months!

If anyone else reading this ever has a question about grandparents and grandchildren, Connie and GrannyH are two amazing ladies who happen to be experts on the subject!

Brandii, In answer to your question, I am winding up the summer vacation by having just one grandkid each day. While that sounds good, physically it is the hardest for me. If they are alone, they expect me to play with them the same way their cousins or sibling would. This grandma can not get back up once she has sat cross-legged on the floor putting a puzzle together cause 'what fun is the table'. I'd rather have them all at one time, then have the rest of the week to myself.

When school starts next week, I imagine I'll spend at least 2 days wall-to-wall and floor-to-ceiling house cleaning. My bathtub was full of gravel 2 days ago. No, I think I'll be at it for a week. I've having a house guest at the end of the month.

I wouldn't think of myself as an expert in grandchildren. I just love my grandkids and want the best for them. Happy childhoods, good memories, understanding moments, etc, are all just a part of that. In the case of my oldest grandchild (that brought me to this forum) the love and understanding he received from me had to make up for what he couldn't get from his parents.

And yes, Connie, keep up informed of you situation. Seems like another court date is nearing. How have the visitations gone?

Until later...GrannyH

I didn't adopt my grandson, But i got custody of him when he was just a little baby
That little baby is now a 24yr old man in collage and still lives with me
I wouldn't change a thing

Hey Brandii, that baby blankets aren't hard. You need a little basic sewing knowledge. I just make a binding and then sew it to 2-1 yard pieces of material. I am going to be making some girl ones for Mary Jayne's mom. She told me last night at the visit that she is having a girl.

The visits are going fine. Maybe mid month they will start unsupervised ones. I have to call the case worker in a few days, I guess to discuss how she is doing with the visits.

We go back to court in October on the 9th and have already been told she won't be returning home then. They may be having overnight visits by then. My biggest worry is the new baby will be here and Mary Jayne still won't be in her home and I think her relationship with her mom will not be as good as it could be if they would have returned her sooner. I would still love to adopt her, but I don't think there is any chance of that happening at all.

It does sound as if you are resigned to the probability of not having custody. Do you plan on asking for visitation? When a nephew was going through a very nasty divorce, his parents (the grandparents) were given visitation before the father was. You'll have to maintain good relationships even if you feel you don't want to. Do you have any personality problems with the mother?

Good wishes continue to go your way. GrannyH

Yes, we know we will not get her back. Yes, we do plan on getting visitation. For sure she will need someone to help watch Mary Jayne when that new baby gets here. She is going to have her hands full with Mary Jayne anyway. She is a busy girl and always pushing her limits. I get along well with the mom and her boyfriend, I am trying to keep my foot in the door! I told her I would make her some baby blankets and the other day she told me she was having a girl. So I guess I better make good on that offer.

I have been sick this week. I am tired of laying around feeling bad. I went to the dr Thursday and he gave me some antibiodics. I have a sinus infection and ear infections. Fall is already getting to me and it isn't really here yet!

Hi Rosie!

Thank you for posting! It's good to hear from you! How was your summer?

It sounds like you are a wonderful influence in your grandson's life.

As someone who has been there, done that, what advice do you have for other grandparents who are in a position to have a huge, positive influence in their grandchildren life, even if it's not on paper? I'd love to hear your thoughts, and think others would as well!

Hi Connie!

How are you feeling today?

It sounds like things are going fairly well with the mom and boyfriend! That being said, I wish there was more I could say about everything you and your husband are going through. I can't imagine the emotions are you experiencing right now.

When is the mom's due date?

That's so sweet of you to make the baby blankets!
(I wish it came that easy to me as you made it sound in your earlier post, lol)! How long have been been sewing? I probably should have asked in my earlier post--is it hard to learn how to sew?

On another unrelated side note, how is Morty?

Always know that we are here for you to talk, vent, laugh or cry! Oh my--did I just sound like a cheesy greeting card? Yikes--but you know what I mean!

Hey Brandii, I have been sick for a while. Allergies and finally a sinus infection and ear infection. I am still not feeling quite human yet! I went to the dr Thursday and he gave me some antibiodics.

The mom is due in December, and for Mary Jaynes sake I wish they would have worked harder to get her in the home. That baby will be here around the time she goes home and I don't feel it is fair for Mary Jayne, but I guess life is not fair huh?

I took Home Ec in high school, but my mom had always sewed. She always wanted my sister and I to sew. She made clothes for us growing up. I am not much of a pattern sewer! I am more easy stuff. My mom finally got me interested in quilting and I do enjoy that although I have not found much time for sewing lately! My sister and I have signed up for 2 craft shows, on in October and the other in November and so I have been trying to find some time to make some jewelry. Seems like I find plenty of time for buying beads though! When my son left for college we decided we could work on the upstairs floors. There are 2 bedrooms and a bath room (toilet and sink) and so one of the rooms is my sewing/beading room and it is so full of stuff it isn't funny. It needs to be painted so I am working on cleaning out all of my stuff and putting all of the furniture into one room. So I have managed to get rid of some stuff and organize my beading stuff. I do find inspiration when I am sorting through stuff and since I have been sick I have made some stuff. I just hate to sit around and do nothing! I guess I am coming up with a lot of projects to do to keep myself busy after Mary Jayne is gone. I still can't imagine what it will be like and just keep thinking I will worry about it when it happens.

Morty is doing well. I took him in a couple of weeks ago to the vet to get flea stuff and he weighed 145. He is still a great big puppy. I will be glad when he grows out of the puppy stage!

We are starting the unsupervised visits tommorow. She is supposed to have her 3 days a week, but can have her every day if she wants, and has to pick her up at 8am and bring her home by 8pm. If she does well with this when we go to court in October 9th they will order overnight visits. I don't really know how to feel....we have been going through the terrible 2s for the last few weeks and frankly it will be a relief to have some free time! I have lots of stuff that needs doing around the house. Probably the best thing to do is to stay busy and not obsess over things! If everything goes well Mary Jayne will be back in her mom's home mid November. The new baby is due last of December.