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This does have to do with difficult relationships, but it's in the work place so there is no real way at this moment to avoid two people. One is my current supervisor who hounded me to work increase my hours and the other is the new administrative assistant that was hired several months ago. Their relationship has become a she crie's, complains, etc and then he makes whatever it is she wants changed happen, she is the admin assistant he is the supervisor.

However, the professional relationship these two have has had a negative impact on many people, my self included. I am now regretting that I agreed to increase my hours. I used to enjoy going to work, now I don't and ALL of my coworker's feel the same way, from the therapists to the rest of the admin staff.

I have tried to see from both their points of view, the organization was very dysfunctional, and still is to a degree, we are trying to get things back to some semblence of order before the parent company decides to pull the plug altogether. However, I guess the way these two are going about it is rubbing people the wrong way. Both are loud and obnoxious, both are very opinionated, they have the same exact personality, in that they are both hot heads and I can see exactly why they gravate towards one another. On the other hand, we do need to keep the atmosphere in the office at a calm level because of the type of people who come in for the services the organization provides.

Last Friday there was a major power struggle going on, between the supervisor and the assistant director (who does not like either of them) and I could feel it in my power chakra so strongly that I became nauseated.

Part of me is angry because when I was asked what changes I thought needed to be implemented they went by the wayside. Now she walks in and the exact things I told my supervisor needed changing are changing because she says they need to be changed.

Please don't tell me to look for another job, I am looking hard, but the economic climate is not favorable as anyone knows who's out there looking. Plus my fiance says we need my income or I would just up and quit that's for sure. I don't get paid enough for the aggrevation!!!

Changes are happening quickly at this organization and perhaps we are all having a hard time adjusting..the old director was fired at the beginning of the year, the new supervisor was hired a short time before and he hired this new admin assistant. A new director was hired recently, who is also very quiet. So quiet he noticed when those two were out for a day, he walked into our area and said as much, so he does notice the environment.

Wow, this was a long post, maybe more than advice I just needed to vent. I am though starting to get slight migrane's in the morning, which is enough to tell me I am either in the wrong work environment now and to get the heck out or the environment itself is going to implode...not sure which right now!

All of this started when the assistant director talked with the supervisor about the new admin assist, how she was not really suited to a front office position. All heck seems to have broken loose and he is now going to the admin assist or allowing her to call the shots even when she doesn't know what she is talking about.

I guess all I can do is sit back and watch and wait since I don't have the ability to just walk away right now and continue to find the environment that works for me. Btw, I do know that the work I do is valued by other's in the organization as well as the parent company and I know I do a good job every day.

Oh How I understand! I have had two similar work situations. The last one was just prior to my husband and I getting engaged. The negativity of a work environment can most definitely cause physical reactions and ailments.

I also HAD to stick it out. As a single mother, I needed the paycheck. There were a few things which helped me survive, I'm hoping may benefit you.

I learned to shield myself with white light and developed a few mantras to get me through the day. You just cannot under estimate the power of positive thought. Each day I went into the ofice with the firm mindset of not letting the cretins win. I would do my job to the best of my ability in spite of problems placed intentionally in my path. As soon as I came home, I would spend at least 1 hour doing something physical, such as raking the yard, cleaning the bathroom, etc. During this, I would "cuss" under my breath and work out the negativity of the day.

Many people just exercise, but it felt much better having accomplished something for my time and effort, other than just sweat. I tried very hard to "leave" the bad stuff from the office in the driveway. This type of mental blocking takes some practice, but it can work if you keep at it consistently. I could mentally block the bad stuff effectively, but needed the physical activity to work the encroaching irritability, and accumulated negativity out of my shoulders and neck each day.

My situation was a bit more intense, as I was personally being targeted. After about 18 months with the company, I learned my boss was a convicted murderer and suffered manic depression with roughly a 2 year cycle. Every 2 years or so, he would run everyone off. If they stayed, he would fire them. I set a goal for myself. I would not leave, he would have to fire me, and he would be forced to pay my unemployment.

This was a real estate office, and several realtors left solely on his brutality to me. The copier was moved upstairs, my desk was moved across the room and all the files from three cabinets were dumped on it. I was degraded in office meetings and not permitted to answer the phone. He somehow got my family's phone numbers and actually called and harrassed them. It took 6 months for him to realize I was not quitting. He finally let me go with the excuse he needed a licensed realtor at the front desk. He had to come up with something, as I had done my job well, despite all the obstacles he placed.

Several months later, I learned he hired 3 people to do my office work, and an outside bookkeeper. I seriously doubt he learned anything from my fortitude, however I significantly benefited from the experience and the inner strength and shielding techniques I developed to deal with it.

Just remembered something else. I hid "happy" things in my desk. Something I could hold or look at that would always bring a smile, and ward off the negative atmosphere. I also had some positive affirmations and stories printed out and stuck in the back of a file. When I needed confirmation someone had it much worse than me, their stories were within reach for comfort and strength.

I hope my little tricks help you to keep it positive while this situation works itself out. Keeping yourself positive through this will allow you to realize the benefits of the experience in the future.

Icp,

Your response is just wonderful. I liked it so much I numbered your suggestions to help other readers with shorter periods of time to hop on the forums. I remember doing many of these things myself towards the end of my career at the brokerage firm I worked at.

Our firm started out like something out of a fairy-tale. The good guys, small business, self starters and good 'ol fashioned hard work. HONESTY, sincerity, long hours, early mornings and continued growth by word of mouth for the character within this business. As we began yielding over the years even more revenue than the local banks, our clientel changed and out went the good stuff in came "wealthy" corruption and keeping up with "country club" type agendas and special (wink-wink) under the table favors. The average client wasn't a part of these rules. Those were the people which made coming to work just the best.

I'll never upon never go back to that way of sporting those types of people or a job that placates to them. We're all equal, I don't care how much money you have or don't have. It was just disgusting the entitlement those people felt they had and the rules they expected you to cover for inside their very unhappy lives and if you weren't up to "playing" they'd do their best to try and have you fired. Knowing this, Karen Elleise made copies of everything and was able to dismantel anything they'd try to muster up. But, it was an exhausting way to live. The more I'd keep up, I'd feel their next move and as a clairvoyant would pick up other very unethical things as well these people were involved with. Just ewwwwwwww...

As for advice, I remember the reading that we had and just viewed my pms. Sorry I didn't get back with you earlier. We've been in the mountains and my computer signal didn't last for very long. We're in Bloomington, IL right now.

What came through in reading the post in the pm was a question actually/feeling - is this an office romance type thing between the two? It seems more than just admin assistant. and supervisor. I thought I'd at least rule that out if that wasn't the case.

The other thing I wanted to mention was that during the reading I believe it was that the promotion would pay for itself in more than just $ for a future position. I was thinking maybe 8 months or 8 months plus an additional 6. That feeling is still with me from those several months ago.

something also that helped me was that I knew in my Soul that those people which made the work enviroment so unpallatable were going to be the same people who no matter how much time would pass, still be pretty much in their same world and the same predicaments and unhappiness I left them in. I wouldn't. I had wings, they had control or what they thought was control but merely a small reality according to them. Your progress is growing/in the process of creating - miserable people have already had whatever progress they made and then left in pursuit of something they settled for in the name of microscopic power in an audience that is basically paid in one form or another to go along with them which could also be paid in one form or another to leave at any given place and time.

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Elleise
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