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My husband and I have been going back and forth on the rocks for awhile. Although we always seem to make things better, it takes one little thing to make things worse. My issue is, I have been having dreams that he is cheating on me, I have asked him flat out if he is and the answer is no, and I truly belive this. But every night it seems as of late, I dream of him cheating. Last night he was having a party, in a limo.. and I went to check up on him and he had all theses strippers rubbing them self in his face, their crotches in his face and he was laughing and just having a good time. When he saw me, he said "Get my F***ing wife out of here" and went about his business... and he went to the back of the limo and he had some girl strapping him down feeding him strawberries and rubbing her crotch in his face.... The next part of the dream I remember is that him and I were arguing and he telling me I was controlling and that he could do whatever he wanted... that he just didn't think things were going to work out and he wanted a divorce.... These dreams are reoccuring.... they aren't always the same, but it seems like I am always having dreams of him cheating on me, or leaving me for another women. I wake up and I am very distraught and upset in the morning... Was wondering if anyone has any insight on this, or had this happen to them before.

Oh wow, those dreams are horrible. I know how you feel though. I've had dreams where my husband is with my mother! I had those dreams over and over for a while and later realized that I was jealous of their relationship.

My mother adores my husband and she treats him like her very own son. My husband loves it because now he's able to be spoiled by not only his mother but mine as well. My mother will sometimes side with him before me so I was resentful of that.

When you have a dream like this, it does leave you feeling sorta yucky in the morning because your mind feels as if it's really happened. Having these dreams would ruin my mood for the entire day.

I think you're having these dreams because you worry that he may cheat on you or feel that he is currently cheating. If there are no signs of infidelity, then there's definitely a fear of it.

I think you should discuss these things with your husband and try your best to work out your current problems in your marriage. Maybe when things get better, you will then feel reassured and the dreams will most likely end.

It sounds like trust is an issue whether he has given you any reason to distrust him or not. How does he react when you tell him of the dreams?