I am learning to keep things in perspective by not looking at achieving my whole goal at once. It is kind of like weight loss, if you look at losing fifty pounds you may feel alot of anxiety. If you look at losing 1pound it is easier to accept. I feel it is similar to making changes in my life concerning my abusers. In weight loss you have to learn new eating habits. In the beginning it seems overwhelming. You feel hunger pains and count the hours until meal time. I am feeling "withdrawel" from my former dealings with my family. If I look at all I wish to achieve with my family, I feel overwhelmed. If I look at one day at a time it is easier. While I do want to reach my goal, I am trying to keep it real. Maybe this seperation from them, though very hard will yield atleast one major accomplishment at some point when we do start talking again. Just a thought to share with the rest.
