My husband and I got married 1 year ago after being together and committed for 5 years before the wedding.
Family and friends seem to think that we only "put off" getting married for 5 years because we weren't ready to have children. . . . and NOW they assume little ones will be on the way any day now. The truth is that we're child-free by choice, and satisfied.
At an outing with friends recently, I abstained from alcohol because of medication I was taking. 8 different people came up to me ready to spit out, "Congratulations, when are you due?!" (I am not pregnant.)
At a family holiday party recently I scooped up an escaping toddler-cousin from the floor and instantly heard cooing from my family members, who told me I "look very natural with a baby."
We respect our loved ones' choice to become parents, but they don't seem so accepting of our choice to remain child-free. My husband and I have chosen to remain child-free together, and are happy with out choice. Up until now, we've been telling everyone we're "not ready" to have kids "right now." They all say we'll change our minds, and we chuckle politely and change the subject. But that's a cop-out and we're done with it.
We're ready to politely tell the truth to friends and family - that we are content to manage our small business together, and not interested in having children. Not now, not ever. We're not crazy, and we're not infertile - it's a choice with which we're happy.
But I'm concerned about sharing my true feelings with loved ones who are SO intent on seeing us have children. Any suggestions on how to let them down easily, so to speak? I want to be respectful, but firm.