The card that my daughter made for her Daddy for Father's Day reads as follows:
"DEAR DADDY, THIS PICTURE IS TO SHOW YOU HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU. I KNOW I'M YOUR BABY GIRL AND MY LIFE HAS BEEN VERY DIFFICULT LATELY AND MY LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME. I AM NOT A LITTLE GIRL YOU KNOW, BUT WITH YOU WILL BE BETTER, YOU ARE THE ONE WHO MAKE MY HEART WHOLE. LOVE XOXO"
It brought tears to be eyes and left daddy speachless since he wanted to be under the impression that she has all but forgotten everything, I kept telling him that she might be strong and look normal but that things are not as rosie as they looked, and just a couple of words and brought the reality to his door again.
I have been concern for her lately, since she has change her behaviour a little, the therapist and I talk about it and I told me husband what she had said and the suggestion to help my daughter, he tought I was been crazy and exagerating everything, but those few little words brought his world crashing down.
My daughter avoids been home as much as she cans, she prefers been outside playing, even if it is with the boys, which is something that she never did before, or stays in her room or the basement, since the abuse happen in the living/dinning room area.
My girls are going to Florida with the grandparents for 2 weeks vacation, and he was against it since we cannot go due to $$ problems, but I believe that it will do a lot of help to her. My parents paid the plane tickets for them, and they will be flying be themselves. I trust them and my 16 years old is responsible enough to take her of her sister for a 2 hours flight non-stop.
We have been having a lot of monetary problems in the past few months, and are really struggling to survive pay check to pay check, but while they are gone, I will sacrifice a little of my money and make a couple of changes in my house, the therapist suggested to change the colors on the walls and move the furnitures around, so it does not look the same and to help her accept the area better and surprise her when she gets back from her trip. My husband did not believe what I was telling him until he read that card, I hope he understands now what I have been trying to tell him all this months and agrees to the plan.
Another thing I am concern about is that she has lost her apetite, does not eat well, and always tells me she is not hungry, I force her to eat dinner with us (we eat in the kitchen, not the dinning room, thank God) she will eat the whole plate but then tells me she feels sick, I am really concern and the therapist told me that we really need to look into it since this behaviour could bring eating disorders and we need to try to fix it before is to late.
I thought things were going a little better, even though I was not fouled like my Husband into thinking that she was back to normal, and now I am back to been mad for what this a******, :mad: :mad: did to my daguhter and how long is going to take to recover completely, if she ever recovers 100%.
Do any of you has suggestions on how to help her, besides the room changes which will take place next month? How can I help her with the apetite? and accepting things a little better?
