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Hey me and my fiance are deciding if if we should sleep together the night before the wedding or separate. I know its traditional to sleep separate but for the last 3 yrs i haven't gone a single night without him. Also if its ok to see each other the day of if he doesn't see me in my dress?

Mrs. Hoops, These traditional are customs that probably haven't applied since 'my time' when we didn't sleep together at all until the wedding. We came to our wedding from different locations.

If you have slept together for three years, there is no responsible explanation for not sleeping together the night before. You will want to be well rested, so do what is necessary for that. Nothing catastrophic will happen if your fiance sees you or your dress. What you will miss is that reaction of him seeing you for the first time as his 'beautiful bride' as you prepare to walk down the aisle.

You decide what memories you want to keep, and then plan how to accomplish them. I don't know what the new traditions are, but I don't think the ones you listed exist or pertain any longer.

GrannyH

Those are just silly traditional superstitions. Your sleeping together the night before and him seeing you in your dress does not reflect the future of your marriage. If you both work hard at your marriage, then it will be a successful one. If not, your marriage will fail. It's just that simple. So go ahead and sleep together if that makes you comfortable. Enjoy yourselves without worry. Best of luck to you both and congrats :)

Jellyroll and Granny H are completely correct.

Don't worry about superstitions.

On the other hand, if you DO sleep apart the night before, it will heighten the anticipation of seeing each other again! And you DO want to see his awe-struck expression when he sees you as a beautiful bride for the first time.

Congratulations on the upcoming nuptials!

I hate typical weddings and I didn't marry in a church, so I don't know if we are too different with wedding expectation. My hubby and I chose my dress together, it wasn't a gown, just a nice cream party dress. We slept together the night before and he helped me zip it up in the morning. Big deal. We are as happy as the first day.

But as Lori-Mariage posted, I can understand (maybe if I had been younger, less cynical and less lazy) a little playing with the anticipation feeling.

Have fun either way!

My husband and I spent the week before our wedding apart, due to crazy living conditions and TERRIBLE weather. The night before our wedding I went and picked him up, and we got caught just outside a tornado @ his mom's house. Anyway ~ I slept @ my mom's house and he @ home... it definatly made for in interesting honeymoon after not seeing each other for a week. I think all thse things should be decided between you and your fiancee without letting all the customary traditions get in the way. Goodluck! & Congratulations.