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I need advice about my husband's ex girlfriend. My husband dated with a woman who was depressive illness taking Prozac almost 10 years ago before me. They broken up anyway because he could not handle her emotional swing. According to him, she started to show up everywhere he went, and kept sending email and so on. After a while, she got married and her stalking stopped. But, she again started to chase his shadow, I think when she broke up with her BF or divorced. She searched on the net to find my husband's email and sent email a couple of times. He just ignored. Finally, she found him on facebook which I can look at and requested a "friendship". He got tired to run away and thought that she might want to show off how happy she was to revenge him, and he added her on his friend list. She seemed OK and did nothing harmful. She didn't comment on him or anything. She got married a couple of month ago, and put happy family pictures and everything. So, he thought she just wanted to show off and it's completely over and it's OK to delete her from his friend list, and he did. And now, she sent him furious email blaming him how childish and stupid he is to add her once and delete next. And she said ,"I loved you so much once and you dumped me, and I'm through divorce now, then you delete me now? How cruel....blahblah...let it go!...I just want to be your friend, care about you and your family...." kind of thing. It's so creepy to me. She obviously looks at his profile everyday basis not leaving any comment or greeting.... I asked her to add me on her friend list too when he got her for protection purpose. I introduced myself nicely and said hi. She replied me in one short sentence. After that, she didn't leave any comment on me either. So can she actually say she cares about us??? He could not talk back thinking about her mentality and added her back on his friend list.... Should I tell her back off excusing that I'm not comfortable for him to keep contact with his ex-gf or whatever to save him? or just let her watching us out?

Let it go. Leave it alone and do nothing. Your husband should put her on ignore.

No more contact. She sounds entirely unstable.

riverboat,
This is Not a good situation.
You should have a talk with dh (dear husband) explaining to him that "his communicating with this woman is very upsetting (to you) and with all due respect please stop." If you do it it a nice way , he's more likely to comply. He should delete her from his "friends" list , and change his e-mail address. I can't figure out how she got his e-mail address..

Women like her, usually try to wiggle their way back into a relationship with their ex's. It's sooo important to prevent any more communicating right now!

Wishing you all the best,
cp

I still think you should let it go, but you have every right to insist your husband stop communicating with you too. Even on Facebook. Nothing.

Your husband feels flattered by her attention. He needs to get over it.

How would he feel if you contacted a former boyfriend?

Meanwhile, it's important for you to strengthen your marriage. When marriages are strong, things like this don't threaten your relationship. If your marriage is weak, it is vulnerable to any passing temptation.