Hello Everybody,
As you can see, I am new here. I am the survivor of an abusive childhood and two abusive relationships. I thought I would never be in another one. My beloved husband passed away just over a year ago. We were married for ten-and-a-half years. He passed away at the age of 35. I met my bf in bereavement group. His beloved wife passed away almost two years ago. While I never expected him to be like my wonderful husband, I did not expect him to be emotionally abusive. I have been through all types of abuse, and I say emotional and mental abuse are the worse forms. He lies all the time and changes as it suits him. I will say he has stopped his overboard flirting. It took me a long time to show him that it was wrong for his friend of forty years to keep kissing him and telling him how much she loves him. He used the excuse that they had been friends for forty years. I have a close childhood friend whom I have known for sixty years; we've known each other since we were two-years-old. I never would dream of kissing and kissing him in front of his wife. She and her husband came over today, and he just thought everything she did was okay. Now he tells me he will phone her and tell her to apologize to me. He told me he would do it this evening. Now he is going back on his word and saying he might do it tomorrow. And he doesn't want to tell her in front of me. I told him he didn't have to do it over the speaker phone, but I wanted to hear him do it with my own ears. Otherwise, he could just lie and say he told her. Now she may or may not apologize, but, at least, I will hear him ask her. Thank you all for letting me rant.
I wish I could walk in Balance now,
Deer
