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I am not sure if this is the right forum or not. I have been talking to an old boyfriend that had a very controlling, alcoholic mother that passed away about 5 yrs ago. All they had was each other until she passed away. Well, I keep having these dreams of my friend that involve his mom and her control over him. One dream he tells me his mom is jealous of me, the other he is afraid to let go of his security blanket. I have always admired this guy because he is a very nice and genuine person. I would like rekindle the flame but I feel like his mother is still controlling him. I want her to release him. My question is, should I go and visit his mom at her grave? Tell her that it is ok and I mean no harm towards her son? Ask her to please release him? I know it might sound farfetched to some but I feel a strong urge to do this. I strongly believe that our loved ones communicate with us after death. What are your opinions or suggestions?

Hi,

I am a pretty firm believer in trusting one's intuition. If you feel strongly that you should communicate with the mother, then perhaps that's what you should do.

However, it seems that there are two different situations going on - the dreams and the intuitive feelings. They may or may not be the same. Dreams are often symbolic, meaning that the images that appear in dreams are often stand-ins for other things - people, emotions, situations, etc. And there are also those who theorize that all characters that appear in dreams are actually parts of ourselves. So from that lens you might want to examine if there is any situation that is in your own life that feels controlling or if there is something that you are keeping close to you as a security blanket.

I'm not really not personally committed to any one dream theory - I think that dreams are as individual as the individuals having them and I think that meanings are always best assigned by the dreamer. So do what you feel is best!

Thanks for the reply. I do feel that visiting the mothers gravesite will help. His mother was jealous of me but I think she was more afraid of me taking him away. She depended on him for everything. I can't think of anything I could be holding on to as a security blanket in regards to this person. for now I will just go with the flow and take a back seat. Maybe something will unfold.

If this is what you feel, then I think you should go for it.

I like your attitude of doing things without expectation--I've always found the best things happen to me when I do just that.

Please keep us posted!

I strongly agree. Every boyfriend I have ever met in the past has always been at the wrong moment...hair not combed, no makeup, sweatpants, etc....lol!! Strange how that happens. I still plan to visit the grave and take some nice flowers. Worth a shot.

Ha! It's always been the complete opposite with me. I'll always be going somewhere thinking, "Wow. I wish someone could see me now." But I'd always be going someplace one would never expect to me anyone and then there they'd be. Back when I was 18, I met one boyfriend-an atheist-at a Baptist Church. LOL.

Who knows, maybe your intent will be enough!

I went and visited his mother's grave this weekend. I had a very strange feeling doing this. Not a bad feeling but a good one. Like I was making amends or something. I felt drawn to her. I asked her to release her son and reassured her that he would be taken care of. Not to worry. I felt really good doing this and that I am closer to accomplishing my goal.