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I am a 34 year old man and I prefer a woman [u]without[/u] a "supermodel skeleton" body, in other words a woman with a little meat on the bones. If I can see the hip bones, shoulder bones or the outline of the skull it's just gross. Yes, there has to be some form of physical attraction in a relationship but...when a man and woman fall in love, they truly fall in love with the man or woman inside. True beauty is not measured by what size of pants you wear. True beauty is being comfortable with yourself, as you are, as God made you. Don't ever let a man or woman get you down because they make fun of your weight or something else. The truth about those people are that they are insecure about themselves and they don't see themselves as beautiful. I've been married twelve years, thirteen in August of this year. My wife has always had luscious curves, visually and physically addictive. I have only ever wanted her to feel comfortable with her body. Knowing that she likes and loves her body makes me feel at ease about her self esteem, and is even a greater turn on!! Love yourself and feel good about who you are. By the way...my favorite actress is Camryn Manheim.

Have to say, as the wife of RM13 it would be great if more women had partners like mine! I giggled when I read that he still thinks my curves are "luscious," even though most evenings they are swathed in minnie mouse jammies and by the time all five kids are in bed they don't feel all that aventurous.

When we met in high school I weighed around 130 (I'm 5'7"ish). The sad thing is that I felt really self-conscious then. I thought I was fat! When we got married at the age of 21 I was closer to 160. Over the next 5 years or so I got up to nearly 260 as the result of a complicated combo of physical issues that caused limited mobility and really wonky metabolism, leading to weight gain that led to emotional eating, only making things worse. I did finally lose the weight, and, more importantly, overcome the emotional eating issues, dropping as low as 130 again (at this weight my family and a couple of my docs felt I was unhealthily thin) and I now sit happily at around 155. If I dropped another 5-10 I'd be fine, if I gained 5-10 I wouldn't worry. I'm stable and naturally maintaining without having to obsess about it.

As horrible as I felt about myself when I was morbidly obese, I always knew my husband found me unbearably sexy, that he truly loved me and reveled in my body. Yes, he was turned on whe we met at the age of 15 or 16 and I was skinny, and yes, he was every bit as turned on when I put on an XXL black and red lacy number for Valentine's Day when I was at my heaviest. He never once said or did anything that made me doubt for a second his attraction to and love for me. He never hinted that I should drop a few pounds, made a fat joke, or bought me a treadmill as a gift. Whenever I undertook a weight-loss program he was supportive (as long as it was safe), but never judged me if it didn't work, and never pressured me. He was relieved when I lost weight becuse I'm Diabetic, have a heart condition, HAD sleep apnea, etc, etc, etc, and now, though the health issues that pre-dated my weight gain are still there, I have definitely had years added to my life as a result of reaching and stabilizing at a reasonable weight.

My body is nowhere near perfect now; I've nursed 5 babies, so "the girls" don't exactly salute anymore! I have scarring from several surguries I've had over the years, I've got stretch marks, and some saggy skin in places, but I feel better about my body than a lot of my skinny friends, and I still know that in dh's eyes I may as well be a combination of Helen of Troy and Venus. I'm good!

You are so perfect. Our bodies are a map of our history and it sounds like you have an interesting one. I loved reading about you.

Our weight goes up and down with the different periods of our lives; with some it is more than others. It's important not to get caught up with what we should look like and enjoy what we do look like at the time.

Thanks for posting (both of you).

You say to never let anyone get you down when they make fun of your weight and just before that you wrote that you find it gross when you see bones; good thing I never let anyone on the internet get to me because this would of gotten to me since I am thin and some of my bones are showing, like usual these speeches only are for people who are overweight and not the other way around.