BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids HELP!!! Two baby showers in two days!!!!

I have to attend 2 baby showers this weekend coming, one on Sunday and another on monday... anyone envy me?

No, I don't envy you at all. I dislike baby showers with a passion. In fact, I avoid them at all cost. That goes for bridal showers as well. Just a bunch of baby rabies women that talk about all things that don't interest me in the least.

Now, if they would talk about travel, fashion, hair styles, the weather - anything but the usual things they chat about - it would be a fun evening.

I find it very boring being around most women. Actully, I quite enjoy talking to elderly folks a lot more than the younger ones.

Yikes, I don't envy you either! Don't go! hehe

Maybe your hubby (or BF) should plan a "surprise" romantic getaway weekend for the two of you!

if i were you, i would fake an illness!

I'm thinking instead of faking an illness or creating an excuse. (though sometimes it may be necessary) Sometimes a polite, "unable to attend" to an RSVP is all they need to know. I'm learning the art of just saying "no" in 2009, applicable to work, parties and various other occassions that I've decided I just don't want to go to.

You're right, Dianne. And if they press for more info, "I have other plans" should be good enough. It's the truth: You have other things you'd rather do.

You shouldn't feel obligated to go where you don't want to go! And shouldn't feel forced to lie about it.

Our church women's group always invited me to baby showers for young girls I didn't even know. I felt no guilt about saying no, with no excuses.

gosh, i have to take xanax to attend baby showers. i can't imagine 2 in two days. it might happen that way here at my work soon though. so i'll need to find out how you did this.

first, show up late, and leave early. that's the best thing. and offer to help out. that way, you aren't involved in the games or stuff. when i was actually trying to have a child, and showers were painful for another reason, i found that helping out with serving or cleaning up kept me away from the activities, and it kept my mind off stuff. plus, it kept me away from the people who would ask questions like "why don't you have kids yet?" and stuff like that. so if you can find something to keep you busy, it will probably help.

although i have to admit, i've bailed on a few showers. once i was the hostess of my friend's shower, and i actually ran away from it. i was so utterly sad, and then when i saw her husband and the love they had for each other and how excited they were about the baby and i thought about how i wasn't able to give my husband (ex now) a child, i just lost it. ran from the place and couldn't go back. a friend even tried to track me down, but i was out of there. it wasn't the healthiest way to deal with it, but at the time, it was all i could do. it's been 8 years, and we're still friends, but she has no idea what went through my mind that day.

so if you have to go, do what i said. show up a little late, help out cleaning up or cutting cake or something. and then leave early. esp before they start opening gifts. because usually they'll find the person who does NOT have a kiddo in their lap (why do people bring children to these things?) to record the gifts and the givers, and you don't want that job if you ask me.

no matter the situation, baby showers are rough for those who aren't mothers. even if they choose not to be mothers, the showers are still rough. same with bridal showers for single girls and divorcees. too many land mines if you ask me.

hang in there and let us know how it goes if you decide to attend.

Well, armed with all your tips and empathy... I WILL OVERCOME!!!!! So ....... that bottle of gin I planned on hiding in my handbag is not a plan then, is it?

hmmmmmm, you could hire a male stripper as surprise entertainment.

That would either insure you were NEVER invited to another baby shower, or that you were always invited - but those bby showers would be a lot more fun I bet!