BellaOnline Forums Beauty and Self Self Development Do you have many close friends?

I have 3 friends from high school I still meet with about monthly, one friend from college I meet with every other month, and then a collection of about 10 friends that I meet with every month or two from my adult life. I would say all of them are "very good friends" that I could call with any emergency and they'd help out with.

I have a *huge* collection of "good friends" - there are 300+ editors who work here at BellaOnline and I enjoy them all, and love talking with them. They live all around the world. So I have a big world of fun friends. For the more immediate home world visit-regularly friends, I have about 14.

I would say my partner is my "best friend". We've lived together for 13 years and he helps me out with everything.

I have 2 friends that have been long-term. The rest seem to come and go. I would rather have 2 amazing friends than 10 fairweather friends.

I had one best friend from 1st -11th grade. We didn't hang out much our senior year and the last time we saw each other was the day we graduated. Well a couple of weeks ago we had lunch and saw each other for the first time in 30 years!!!

I had one best friend fresh-jr year of college. Our senior year we roomed together, but our friendship fizzled out by the time we graduated.

Since then, I've had one best friend but she's on the depressing side so I really don't talk to her much.

I'm like Kristin on the rest...they come and go.

I have friends, but I don't make the time to see them as often as I should. I do love and enjoy them, but my closest friends are my husband and adult kids...and my sister.

And then, there are friends who come and go, but I still consider them friends and try to keep in touch at least occasionally.

I had a few friends in school and one good friend about 9 years ago.(we lost touch when I moved back home after my divorce) I have started keepig to myself and becoming a homebody. I don't go out, but have made an acquaintance in the new apt. building where I now live. She is about 15 yrs younger than me, but we have form a tentative bond.

Recently, Facebook put me in touch with many old friends from high school. And cousins whom I haven't seen for decades. So fun.

[quote=Sarah Roop]I have one friend that has been in my life since we were 4 (we are now much, much... much older!) I have had other very close friends throughout the years but have found that most friendships seem to come and go over time, and that is okay too. People change as do their interests and needs. People move, people pass on. But the best relationships are the ones who know you best and still like you, and you them. And quantity does not mean quality any more than history does. I find we spend most of our time with the same friends most of the time, although is is great to get together with other people sometimes. I can say that my husband has been my very best friend for over 13 years now, and I do not see that changing. Sarah [/quote] Personally, I can relate more to this opinion than any of the others. I'm a very friendly, sociable person capable of walking into a situation and talking to/entertaining anyone, but I don't cultivate lasting friendships. My only 'friends' exist within my own family and my late darling wife, Mary, was my best friend. My son and daughter followed a close second but now come first since I lost my wife just before Christmas of 2006. I would never dream of sharing a confidence with someone else and I wonder if others think that is a mistake?...

I think every person makes that decision for themselves and it is good for what that person's situation is. I know people who lose a spouse and who remain alone, and who are quite content living on their own. They still have friends and family, but they choose not to have another life partner.

I also know people who wait a few years and then find a new partner in life. Not to "replace" the previous partner, but to have a companion to do things with going forward, someone different, someone to talk to.

No to minimize the situation, but it would be like a minister you loved for many years moving to another country. You have a new minister come into town. You miss the old minister, the new minister could never be the same as the old minister, never know that shared history. The new minister will have new ways and new ideas. But still, you can build a new, different relationship with this new minister and find new connections that are also helpful.

So I know losing a partner is far worse than losing a minister, but that is a hint at what some people feel about the idea of eventually finding a new partner.

I have moved twice since my college years. Keeping in touch with friends has been challenging as we don't see each other and everyone is in a different phase of their life. I have new friends, which is nice. But I am always envious when I meet people who have know each other since childhood. That must be so cool. Mattie a la mode

I envy you because I have made friends since my college years and none of them were as true as my childhood friends. Is it just me that thinks that. I would like to know!And I'm not talking about colleagues or aquaintainces. I'm not very good at meeting people.