BellaOnline Forums Family Christian Living Would you accept your gay child?

A tough question I know, but how do you think you would react to your child telling you they were homosexual? Would you love them regardless or try and change them? As a Christian woman...I�ve been thinking about this a lot recently. I know in my heart that I would be accepting no matter what, but it�s so hard to say how you would react to something until you experience it firsthand. Thoughts?

I have thought of this, too.

Yes. Of course. I will love my child always, no matter what. That doesn't mean I have to love his choice, his behavior or his biological predisposition--whatever the reason for his sexual orientation. I don't have to understand it to love him.

I don't believe it is possible for me to "change" him and I think it may even be detrimental to his psyche and our relationship for me to try to change him. Change only comes from within.

As a Christian woman, you can turn to the Lord. Know that your son has his own work to do and can work it out with the Lord directly. You can trust in the Lord's love and mercy and compassion and patience and all-knowing goodness.

Those who believe in a God who would punish and outcast a child who "knows not what he does" must not understand the true Father. The whole homosexuality thing is beyond my understanding. Even IF, homosexuality is a sin, why would I add more sin onto the situation by withholding my love for my child? Gosh, aren't we supposed to love our enemies even? And our prodigal children? We all are sinners.

Besides, who knows where a mother's love can lead a child? It may be the only thing in his life that reflects God's love.

In this often cold and cruel world, a person should be able to count on one thing if nothing else: his mother's love. Don't you think? I don't think that the Lord would be angry at me for loving the child He blessed me with...no matter what the child may have done in his life. What a relief!

I can't give any better aa answer than Lori. Perfect answer.

Our son came out to us last year and it was shocking and upsetting but we came to terms with it and decided that there are worse things in the world that he could do. We have tried to be supportive and caring.

Yes Lori, that was a perfect answer. I was going to say the same thing basically, only not quite as eloquent. lol.

I would love my children no matter what choices they make or down what path that life takes them. It is unconditional love like the love Our Father has for us. If He loves us and forgives us then who are we not to do the same?

I wouldn't kick my daughter out in the street or call her names if she came home one day and told me that she is pregnant. I would take her in my arms and cry with her and then pray for her and the baby and also let her know that I will always be there for her and help her in any way humanly possible.

It's called AGAPE love. That is what God has for us and He has proven it by sending His only Son to die for us so that we may get into Heaven. How can I not have agape love for my children?

Vance, you're so right...Agape love is what God has for us.
If my son told me he was gay, I would be shocked for a minute or two, but then I would let him know he is still my son and I love him no matter what, by the next day it would be old news. I know for a FACT my ex would NEVER accept it.
My daughter pregnant, a much harder pill to swallow since we're talking about another life, but I think other then making sure she understands her choices about pregnancy before she got pregnant and re-iterating it after...at that point other than making sure she understands her new responsibilities, it's happened so what can I do but continue to love her and let her know that no matter what she is still my daughter. I've always been there for my children when they needed me, so I don't see that changing...now my EX on the other hand, would probably go ballistic (trust me, we've had this conversation before so I know how he would react in both circumstances) All that I could do is love my children and pray that the God would change the heart of their father, my EX. But God will do that in His time, not mine so...

Of course, I would love that child as much as my str8 child. The love would be not different.

I think I would have to love (the verb) a gay child more than a straight child because I know the difficulties he will face in life.

I agree with you 100% Lori...I can tell your are very much in tune with yourself and your spirituality. Your children are very lucky...

Lori and everyone else... I'm glad to see that so many of us are on the same page. However, the harsh reality is that not everyone is fortunate enough to have parents who are on the same page as us. I'm sure many of you are familiar with that book Prayers for Bobby? The mother in the book struggles with accepting her sons homosexuality. A sad story, but a great read and somewhat of a reality check. I know it was for me.