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Hi all..My brother has adopted a baby from Korea..He and his wife are esctatic! The problem though is her family is giving her problems because she's white, my brother is Hispanic and the baby is Asian! What can I say to her as some words of inspiration?

This honestly devastates me. It's funny that we're discussing this because there's movie or there was a movie somewhere on TV about mixed marriages..Not sure if it aired though..Going to try to find some more info on it..Anyone else seen commercials?

My children are biracial, and my grandson is Spanish, i'm white,
My adopted brother is Chinese. We all get along just fine. Its the ignorant people on the outside that have a problem.
Tell your brother & his wife to just be happy.

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Hi Tallons!

That's so exciting for your brother and his wife!

I'm sorry they are getting some negative comments, especially from her own family. Sadly, that happens more often than not.

Is their baby home yet? The reason I ask, is because in some cases, people who have certain feelings (as it seems they have expressed) take one look at their new grandchild, and the next thing you know they are telling everyone about how great adoption is, how wonderful their new grandchild is, etc.

Others, however, sadly, may continue to make comments even after a baby is home. My advice for your sister in law is to surround herself with supportive friends and family, period!

I'm not saying she should avoid her family completely, but it's perfectly ok to put a little distance if they are not going to be supportive.

A friend of mine said that as soon as her child starting picking up on some of the comments made here and there, it was much easier to put that distance there, and focus on the supportive people in their life.

I'm so happy they have you and your family's support!

Please let us know if there have been any changes since your post! Oh, and is it a boy or a girl?

Really, these people are small-minded. Haven't they learned anything from history? Prejudice and racism are so yesterday. The new world order will be one of global integration and that includes ethnic blending whether by blood or love or both.

She can tell people with a smile, "We celebrate diversity. God loves us one and all."

As for the racial confusion, it just isn't so. Barrack Obama is a good example of this. He was not raised in a black community. He had a loving white grandmother. He did not have any racial confusion. My black cousin was adopted by my Japanese uncle when he married the child's mother. He got double looks because of his Japanese last name but thought it was funny.

Race is a problem if you allow it to be. It may have been a problem in the past because there were a lot more closed minds. There still are closed minds around but not as many. The problem lies within those igorant minds.

Congratulations to your brother and his family!