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Marriage Combines Two Souls
esplores the spiritual reason for getting married, and some of the world and religious traditions thsat make this day so special.

Please share some of your wedding day experiences that you can't wait to pass dosn to you kids - or that have been passed down through generations of your family!

Interesting! I think one of the best traditions I have ever heard of is the passing of family rings down generations. My friend's ring is an old old ring that was her husbands great great great grandmothers! of course she doesnt were that ring everyday her husband baught her her own wedding ring but during the wedding her husband put the old ring on her finger. She told me that nothing makes you feel more like part of a family then to know that they have choosen you to carry on the tradition of there family! She wears it to church and on holidays. I also have a friend that her family uses there own vows. the words are the most beautiful I have ever heard and so poetic. I dont remember the words but the general gest is to love respect and honor there selves first then there spouse and then there family and then there family and in laws Putting everything in there being to ensure the others health safty and happiness!
its a long poem but it touched my heart more then words can say! Her family has said the same vows for generations and no one knows where it started but the original words are Celtic and they learn the Celtic words first and then the translation.
At her wedding, her daughter translated the words into the Celtic langauage for the people watching as she got married to her second husband after her first husband was killed in a car wreck 3 yrs before. It was her daughters way of saying to her that it was ok that she get married again. it was a suprise to us all! the daughter was 12 at the time!

Michelle, ever heard of a wedding vase?

It is a native American tradition where water from two vessels is poured into one, much like a unity candle.

I just was in a wedding in October where they used a vase and instead of water, they used two colors of sand.

Quite beautiful

Jase the sand vase sounds quite pretty, but I really love the water vase idea.

I think it perfectly sums up how the 2 become one andn then cannot become separated. How beautifully symbolic!

MysticSophia, I also love passing wedding rings down. Although we did noe keep them, my son carried my husband's and my gret grandparetn's rings in the ring-bearer's box along with our own.

And my "something old" was an heirloom cameo necklace which I still have and intend to pass down to my daughter on her wedding day.

I have seen the sand vase with the two colored sands and it is cool how the sand blends and at one glants you see one color and if you look closer you can see the two different colors that combined to make one color. I think that sums up marrage. At first glanets the two are one soul they share everything equalily (or they should) but when you take a closer look the two are two souls with very different colors styles ect that complement eachother well (or should) and while you can set and pick the different colors of sand out one by one it is very hard and you will never completely get every grain separted!

I think that is how a marrage should be I have my own thoughts feelings beliefes and so does he. We are two in one and they should balance and harmaenize each other becoming like one song in the melody of life! lol Im a bit romantic....

I have seen the water vase done with two colors of water but I dont like the sybolizm is that you are one unit forever tied (doomed) to think feel act believe ect and you lose all since of who you are as a person. its like giving up your soul to a mere mortal! I prefer to give up my soul to a high power then my husband....

That is a good point!

Because in a good marriage you shouldn't have to give up your total identity.

Thanks for pointing that out. I'm going to have to look for a pic of one of these vases.

She explained the sand better than I could have. It was the most beautiful thing I have seen at a wedding. I loved it better than the unity candle as well. Because with a unity candle you snuff out the flames of your past to be a singular united flame, which to me does not describe a marriage at all. It is a blending of souls, not a complete union into a singular mass.

I once read, years ago, in a book: A relationship can be compared to two pillars holding up a building. They each have their own strengths to hold up their side and must have space between for balance, yet one cannot support the structure alone.

I thought that was a good analogy of a strong relationship.

Another good analogy (but not as pretty or poetic) is how two marriage partners are like two wheels of a cart. Together, they can pull great loads through all terrain. But if one does not function properly, the cart only goes around in circles.

And, I like the sand symbology because, like Michelle said, in a good marriage, you don't really give up your own identity completely.