I don't know how to develop healthy selfishness other than I take a hot lavender-scented bath every night with candles lit all around me (sometimes I add a nice white wine) on the side.
Although when I'm creating in my art room and am totally in the zone, I think I'm absorbed in what you are calling healthy selfishness because I'm able to tune everything and everyone out. Also when I'm meditating.
But other than that, I'm always a wife and a mother first. Even with my son in college, if he calls me, I drop what I'm doing and take care of whatever he needs right away. But I wouldn't have it any other way.
Last edited by DebCreativeEditor; 10/26/08 09:49 PM.