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Hi all - I am really hoping I can get some insight here. I have been remarried for 5 years and together we have 6 kids. I have 3 and he has 3. My kids are with us all of the time and his spends 4 days a week with us. Now, on to the issue. . . off and on I have trouble with resentment and jealousy. I get pretty frustrated with my husband and the way that he treats 2 of his kids (both girls - he does not do the same thing with his son.) He very definitely has a favorite, and she is currently 13 and gets in the middle of everything. She used to really act and out and cause alot of trouble and she has pretty much knocked that off, but she still is an attention seeker and he ALWAYS gives into it. For example - if I am cranky and blame it on PMS he tells me how he thinks that is [censored] and just an excuse, but then when she is on her period he uses it as a way to communicate and is very empathetic and tells her how he understands that that may be why she is feeling cranky. What the heck???? I am beginning to feel a bit like a maid, babysitter, driver, everything but a partner. Anyone have any suggestions???? Thanks!

Yes, vacation has your name written all over it! Or if you can't take a trip take a day or a few hours where you can simply pamper yourself and clear your mind. Afterwards bring your list of concerns and have a heart to heart with your husband. (I'm guessing on this but your husband may feel he doesn't have to worry about you because you're his rock), first you said "I Do" and now you are doing everything. It won't be easy to lay out your concerns without being defensive and reacting to criticism but it�s worth it to get both sides out. Just remember sometimes they shoot the messenger. Try to remind him how life was when you first met and when you were giddy as a high-school kid. Bigger concerns like work, bills, and money always down play love. We have to keep the image of the best moments in our lives alive, not only for ourselves but for everyone around us. If all else fails family counseling is your best bet. Communicating and revisiting loving moments is how I and my hubby keep our relationship going strong despite other obstacles.