Jenna, this is almost exactly what happened to me three years ago. I'm sorry this is happening to you. I got part way through your first article & knew your husband was having an affair.
My husband had been "in love" with someone else our entire marriage. He also claimed to be a born-again Christian when I met him. Now he says he is more "spiritual" than Christian. I honestly don't know what that means.
I know this really hurts right now. During my divorce I lost about 40 pounds and couldn't sleep. I actually called my doctor for sleeping pills. I knew I needed my sleep if I was going to get through this. The thing is God has a plan for you

It's a good one too! My life is sooooo much better now - no more verbal and emotional abuse, I have my own business, and I'm engaged to a wonderful man.
Keep us posted about how you are doing.