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Does anyone have any experience with long distance relationships and the best way to keep a guy interested? I am 62 and very interested in a guy who lives a few states away. I am not sure how he feels but he is very nice and a very good friend.

My husband and I had a long distance relationship for 7 years before I moved here to NYC to be with him. We lived together for 4 years before we got married. (It took that long for us to save money-we paid for our wedding mostly by ourselves). It wasn't easy but it was worth it. The best thing you can do is communicate communicate, communicate! When we started dating(1995!), cellphones, text messaging and even websites weren't real big, but we called each other daily and also chatted on CompuServe.

Thank you, Sue, for sharing - this is encouraging. It is difficult for me because I know how strongly I feel about him yet I am not sure how he feels yet. Our friendship is still young (even though we are not) so time will tell. Guess I just need to be patient.

I have been in a long distance relationship from last two years. I met him on a dating site.

Here are the basics that made my personal long distance relationship work:

Make a Plan For The Future: You have three options: he moves to you, you move to him or both move to another place. Start talking about it as soon as you realize that both of you want to be together.
Meet Regularly. Try to meet each other at least once in a month.
Use recent Technologies to Communicate. Stay in touch through emails, chatting, etc...

I have been in a long distance relationship from last two years. I met him on a dating site.

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My boyfriend and I are apart for about 6 months now, and we are still together. Honestly, I was not a big believer on long distance relationships, but I realized it's not that hard at all.

Firstly you must be honest with each other. Trust is very important in a normal relationship (how much more for a long distance right?).

Second, is communication. It is very important. We send messages to each other many times a day and call each other every day. This really helps bridge the distance between you two.

And lastly, talk about the possibilities. Like you moving to where he is or vice versa. It's good to talk about the future. It brings security to the relationship.

I've been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years now (my beloved is in the UK - I'm in Australia).

The most important thing I've discovered is that it's important to take time for romance in the long distance relationship. Whether this means phone or net sex, or even just "naughty" letters or e-mails.

I try to talke at least 1 hour per day to talk to my man - sometimes we phone for a few minutes, mostly we use internet chat and a webcam. We chat before work, going to bed, and on the weekends spend a few hours each day chatting.

At least once a month we do have a "date". We work out a time, and then watch the same DVD and have dinner together (or breakfast - depending on whose time zone we choose to use). We don't make it elaborate, but usually have the same food. We discuss the movie and dinner - again using the webcam and yahoo chat, and it's always alot of fun. I always make sure I dress up for him - and he does for me too.

COmmunication is definitely the key to a long distance relationship - you need to be prepared to be more open than you would otherwise be.

I've found it just as fulfilling as a relationship close by would be - in fact, it's even more special because I value the time we spend "together" - because it is an effort for us both.

I love him very much, and we are currently saving for him to migrate to Australia.

It can work - and work well. But you both need to be committed to it. Just like any other relationship.