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I'll say whining in the title so it's clear what we mean You can still speak up if something is wrong. You can still stand up for yourself. The aim here is to stop pointless whining and griping.

You put a bracelet on a wrist, a coin in a pocket, or any other "thing to move". The moving of an object is a critical part of helping you self train.

The goal is to go 21 consecutive days without whining. If you find you have whined, you switch the bracelet (or object) and start again. It takes many people 8 months to achieve this - but it's well worth it! People report being MUCH happier when they focus on goals and family rather than past gripes or future stresses.

See a Complaint Free World -
a Complaint Free World

for more details!

Ok I just whined in my spider post...so I will start at midnight tonight...

Great thought provoking topic Lisa!

OK here's the first bracelet I made. It's a combination of phoenix stone, grassy stone and malachite.





We'll see how long I go before I have to switch it! Only spoken and written words count. Thoughts do NOT count - the idea being that you need some place to sort things out as you practice. Over time as you find more serenity in your life, your thoughts will naturally mirror that.

That is absolutely beautiful, Lisa! what made you think of making one like that?

The Only You part reminds me of the commercials I saw as a child: "Only you can prevent forest fires..."

I am assuming it means only you can change the world/your life/your serenity? Something like that?

Yes actually I did a thread in inspiration I think where I asked everyone what their saying would be, and I said I'd come up with this one for me. In part because of the forest fires But also there's a dance dance song that starts with that which is very cheerful. And also it's a reminder that only I can direct how I feel about things in life and how I react to them.

I already have a carnelian bracelet that I made, which is similar, which I really love. So when I was thinking about this project I thought I should make a few bracelets of my own.

I also made this one with shell and tiger eye -

Jilly if you want I'll make one for you - here are the stones I have -

http://www.lisashea.com/japan/origami/sales/beads/gemstones.html

they're part of my origami supplies. And let me know what you'd like the charm to say, I'm making them out of polymer clay. I love polymer clay

I do have some more of the shell (the pink beads) but not of the phoenix stone or mossy stone, those were a special purchase I made just for this bracelet.

Here's the final one I made, amethyst is my birthstone and "protects against drunkenness". I figured it would be appropriate with me trying not to drink wine right now The black is black onyx, for strength.

I *think* I went all day today without complaining. I had a drinks (water) out with 2 friends and tried very hard not to complain even slightly. I talked with them about the book and how books like these really can help people find new focus in their world. I wore my green bracelet.

Then I brought Bob some pizza, then came home. So after that there really wasn't any talking - but lots of posting.

I really am trying to be aware of what I say and type, to be encouraging and supportive.

I'm not *too* worried about being exact right now. What I mean is I accept the chance that maybe I'll slightly complain, not even think about it and go on with talking without realizing I should have done something. I figure I'll make a "real" mistake in a day or two and have to start again, so I'm more making sure I'm heading in the right direction

I would LOVE one Lisa! I would like mine to say Serenity. I am thinking lapis lazuli for creativity and to ward off depression, with carnelian for spiritual strength and the ability to rise above life's stresses, with onyx for setting goals and priorities. That all sounds like just what I need right now.

Hmmm, can you also add just ONE Larimar stone? That will be my Buddha stone (like as in a mala) to focus on what you wrote, "spiritual clarity, an open mind and a receptive spirit."

Doesn't this sounds exactly perfect for me? I can use it for the non-complaining and also for meditating!

I love the cute little wine glass on your amethyst one, BTW.

well, i am still wearing my band on the same arm, although I am not sure if I complained last night. Dan and I went food shopping really late, at like 10pm, and I said, looking at cookies, "there is nothing here I can eat." [because I am low carb and there were no low carb cookies]

I didn't say it with any particular inflection, but am unclear if this counts as a whine/complaint.