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The support of your husband and others in your home is critical for breastfeeding success. How has your family been supportive or unsupportive? Do you have tips for others whose husbands are just not understanding how they can help or why this is important. I've been very lucky to have a husband who helped get through a rough time starting out and is proud of and grateful for my commitment. Check out my article on husbands, and share your thoughts and feedback Husbands and Breastfeeding Article
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fortunatley my hubby is extremely supportive. at first, though, he thought i was crazy and didn't understand why i was so adamant about it, especially when it was so hard. that was kinda nice as it made me know that if i failed at it that it would be more than okay with him. but, since i wanted so badly for it to work, it was rough when he wasn't 100% behind it. But, it just took my devotion and my printing a list of all the health benefits to breastfeeding for him to change his mind. He read it and then said that he had no idea and that he was glad that i chose to bf and would do whatever he could to help - and he has. over time he has seen how much our dd loves to breastfeed, too, and i know this has helped him. plus, he gets out of being the go-to person for bedtime struggles - lol! i am so blessed to have him as my best friend and hubby!
All the best,
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fortunatley my hubby is extremely supportive. at first, though, he thought i was crazy and didn't understand why i was so adamant about it, especially when it was so hard. that was kinda nice as it made me know that if i failed at it that it would be more than okay with him. but, since i wanted so badly for it to work, it was rough when he wasn't 100% behind it. I went through the same thing with the tough start with daughter #1. I was never that nutty about breastfeeding until it looked like maybe I couldn't make it work -- then I dug in my heels. At one point, hubby said that while he was 100% wanting me to do it and supportive, he wondered if some of the benefits were being outweighed by the stress I was under trying to make it work. He hated seeing me so upset and how hard the baby was having to "work" at latching on and then taking the expressed milk in the bottle, and trying so hard so many times a day, etc. But in the end, we made it all work, and nursed until 18 months. Once you get into it, it's so easy to forget how awful it was at first.
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Personally, I do not understand any husband who is not supportive of his wife and breastfeeding.
I mean heck, if nothing else, it prevents him from getting up at 2am to feed the baby.
I was very supportive of my wife when it came to breastfeeding and even held a blanket up when I had to in public so she could feed our daughter.
I think breastfeeding is a beautiful and natural thing plus it is the healhiest for the baby.
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My husband is so supportive that he asks if i needed anything else and leaves the room. 
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My husband is so supportive that he asks if i needed anything else and leaves the room. Moni, Have you asked hubby what this is all about? He may think you want your privacy, or feel left out. Husbands feeling at breastfeeding can definitely be complex. If you let him know that you'd like him to stay and keep you company, maybe he would... perhaps he doesn't realize that nursing babies are not the best conversationalists! Nicki :-)
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My Husband is very supportive and in fact if it wasn;t for him I probably would've had to quit. When I brought dd home from the hospital, she had trouble latching on and then my milk came in. My breasts got so full and hard that she couldn't latch on. The more I tried, the harder they got and painful too. After I burst into tears, my husband got down and sucked out the excess until they were soft again and dd could latch on.
Weeks later, when dd started to sleep longer at night, my breasts again got full and painful and I couldn't sleep. Sleep was very important to me and since I hate pumps, I woke up Dh and asked him to suck out the excess. He was overjoyed!
Later again DD began to develop a preference for one side and I stared to get lopsided. Hubby was very happy to help me balance up. So I owe my breastfeeding success and pleasure to him. Without him it would have been a painfull nightmare but with him it's been a pleasure.
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Vance, it's beautiful to hear how you helped and supported your wife with breastfeeding.
My husband has always been very supportive also. It makes things much easier.
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My Husband is very supportive and in fact if it wasn;t for him I probably would've had to quit. When I brought dd home from the hospital, she had trouble latching on and then my milk came in. My breasts got so full and hard that she couldn't latch on. The more I tried, the harder they got and painful too. After I burst into tears, my husband got down and sucked out the excess until they were soft again and dd could latch on.
Weeks later, when dd started to sleep longer at night, my breasts again got full and painful and I couldn't sleep. Sleep was very important to me and since I hate pumps, I woke up Dh and asked him to suck out the excess. He was overjoyed!
Later again DD began to develop a preference for one side and I stared to get lopsided. Hubby was very happy to help me balance up. So I owe my breastfeeding success and pleasure to him. Without him it would have been a painfull nightmare but with him it's been a pleasure. That is really gross what your husband did.
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Nin,
There is absolutely no academic value to the statement you made, it was purely judgemental.
Discussion, even if it is disagreement is encouraged here - but putdowns and insults are not.
If you have nothing of value to add to the conversation other than an insult, kindly keep your comments to yourself.
To everyone else: there is no reason to repond to either NIN's or my post here.
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