Right now, hubby & I live in the UK. We don't know how long we want to. I doubt we will grow old here, I doubt it very much. ANYWAY lately I have been hearing about:
How many more special needs children are being born (and I'm seeing it to - e.g. in my work with kids, used to be 1 in 120 or less than that at work with the little ones last year it was 3 or 4 in a 120!) Yes I KNOW people love their special needs kids I KNOW I would DEFINATELY love ANY child of mine. (there's an except for...coming soon) But I know it would be even harder work if they were special needs. One day I was walking in the park and there was a boy 8 - 10 and he was holding two dolls, and two woman were with him and he was just crying - sobbing - for about 10 or 15 minutes. But I could just TELL he had some kind of special needs. No, it wasn't annoying, it was heartbreaking for me. Just to hear how upset he sounded. If I had a child like that, despite the love, some progress seen etc., would not my heart break again over and over?
Another thing, "Britain's Big Babies."
On Thursday or Friday two colleagues were talking about this program I never saw, one of the babies born was born at a weight of one stone! That's 14 pounds or 7 kilos. That's one BIG baby coming out one very SMALL area. And no, mum was NOT big. And he wasn't the only one! They say these babies are being born bigger and I'm saying oh HELL NO I WON'T go - through that!
Thirdly, remember I said "I KNOW I would DEFINATELY love ANY child of mine. (there's an except for...coming soon)" This is the except.
If they killed or raped someone or even hurt them very very badly on purpose, serious assault. If being a mother means I would still love my child even if they did that then I don't want to be a mother. I don't want to learn to love and accept people like that.
Chances of having a kid like that seem to be increasing.
Including in the UK where more and more teenagers seem to be senselessly killing each other. Now people say to me oh but if you raise your kid right they WON'T turn out like that. OK fine but even IF you are right...what if they are a VICTIM to people who ARE?
This world (reason four) is a wonderful beautiful place and I love it so much BUT in some ways it IS getting worse and we DON'T know what the future holds. At the moment with increasing terrorism, global warming, climate change and over-population making resources dwindle it is NOT looking good. Someone - with 5 kids! - said in the future water will be as precious as oil. And I do NOT want to raise children in this world. So yes state of the world is a big one for me. I also think - even though I also have my so-called "selfish" reasons to not have kids - I also have a lot of UNselfish ones too, like not wanting to pass on some potentially life-ruining genes that have skipped me but may not skip my offspring (genes can be like that) and this.
Maybe in earlier ages I WOULD have chosen to have kids. But in THIS society? NO freakin WAY!
(Again, these are MY choices, MY beliefs, those who make other choices, that's right for THEM, fair enough I wish them the best, it's just it is NOT right for ME. Now you know some more reasons WHY.
