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This is really embarassing situation. I am well over fifty years old and I am totally obsessed with Jon Bonjovi. It isn't just a avid fan thing. I stay on youtube half the day looking at him and listening to his music. I went to his concert a few weeks ago. I dream about him. If I go too long without seeing him I have panic attack. I am not a stalker, I would never hurt him. My husband passed about four years ago. I was a JBJ fan but nowhere near what I am now. Any suggestions?

Hi Linda,

You might want to consider seeing a counselor.

Obsessions can spring up to protect the mind from lots of things - I would be guessing yours is probably grief over losing your husband. But usually there is more to it than just one thing.

By focusing on an obsession, your mind leaves you no room to focus on anything else, so that's why I say it is a protection (of sorts). It is just not a healthy protection.

A counselor or therapist should be able to help you worl through your feelings and get to the root of the obsession - and hopefully change it back into judst a healthy interest.

I agree with Michelle - the time you pour into Jon is time that is not spent on other pursuits which would help you stay healthy and connected. Balance is better, and a therapist can help you with that.

Hi Linda,

You might want to consider seeing a counselor.