"Angela...I think that I was accused of using the word "it" a few weeks ago - in fact a clear reading of my post reveals I was referring to the situation and not the child. It just goes to show when someone comes into our forum with a certain mindset - that is, looking for offence...they'll find it whether it's there or not..."
No need to defend your use of "it," Deborah. Frankly, I've had it. I'm responding to this particular excerpt because I'll admit I've used the term "it" quite frequently to refer to children
as opposed to situations. I use the term "it" (and will continue to do so freely, either here or elsewhere) for two reasons: 1) It's a quick reference to the subject (the child to whom I'm referring at hand), and 2) I don't have a child...it's easy and quick for me to refer to the thing as an IT, rather than grammatically offend the professors of my past with the whole "he/she" bit. For Christ's sake, if I were to go in the Cooking Room and refer to parsley as "that green sprinkly stuff," would someone be so unstable, bored with their own life, Nazi-herb to make a post to correct me?
For me, kids will sometimes be a "he," sometimes a "she," and sometimes an "it." The "it" thing will come through in my casual (rather than politically-correct-appeasing) writing more often because I truly
feel awkward, anxious and a little freaked around humans under 16. I thought I was safe here expressing that for over a year.
"If we only talk about the nice things, then we have no discussions leading us to explore and understand how to deal with the negative aspect of being CF. I go all day every day censoring my feelings about this topic. I don't want to come here and also feel censored."
I could have copied your whole post, CF GAL, because I really identified with it. I even read it aloud to make sure I soaked in every sentence. I only copied the first couple of lines that verbalized how I feel, too. And still, I keep going back to your post, shaking my head...I feel everything you said.
It's ironic that this thread was started by the moderator/editor, with her point being her consideration of sticking with MNK. Kim never intended any feelings of animosity or discord; yet, many of us are using this thread as a way of posting our thoughts on our way out, "Wondering if I Should Keep Doing MNK."
What an unfortunate turn of events, thoughts and discussions for this crowd of people.