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When a person is "baby stalked" it means a parent is very obviously trying to show off their loaf to you or get your attention by being loud , invading your personal space or being obnoxious. An example of this would be when I was in the waiting room to see a doctor, a woman walks in and sits next to me with a baby on her lap. I don't aknowledge her and her baby at all since I'm reading a book and minding my own buisness. now the room had one other person in it so there were free seats everywhere but this woman chose to sit down right next to me. so everything is quiet when the woman starts saying very loudly;

"you're seeing the doctor today aren't you,, aren't you?"

"such a good little boy !"

I still don't look at her and her loaf, and I think she was getting annoyed that I didn't coo over the brat. So she keeps talking to herself loudly while I'm straining to read my book, it was so incredibly annoying. Luckily I get called by my doc so I can ecscape. so this is baby stalking , anyone else been baby stalked? The kid doesn't even have to be there too!, someone could be trying to get you to make a comment on a baby photo or they could be talking about their baby very loudly next to you expecting you to gush.

This happens to me all of the time. My mom would fawn over the baby - I just get irritated.

Oh WOW -- never heard of that term nor put in words what that experience feels like, but you're right! People DO that!

I must say I feel sorry for them, feeling the need to conjure up reaction-based validation from someone else for having a kid. That's what they're doing, isn't it?

I mean, it would have been a different story if the woman would have sat somewhere else other than right beside you, or if she would have been cooing to her baby in a softer tone, having a more private "conversation" with it.

Can you imagine putting up with that for a few seconds and then gathering your purse and magazine, getting up, selecting another seat on the opposite side of the room, and sitting back down to continue reading your magazine in peace? *CACKLE* I'm sure some people would actually think that's so rude, when they have no clue how rude we may think it is to invade our space with cooing and baby gibberish.

"baby stalked", I love it! ;D I haven't gotten that so much from parents, but from the actual kids sidling up and acting up while sliding looks my way to see if I noticed them. I just called it acting like an attention whore, but baby stalking works too.

I would have given her a death stare, pulled my shirt up so it covered my mouth in an obvious act of germavoidance, and taken my book to a spare seat as far away as possible. Take the hint - I don't want anything to do with your sprogling.

I actually make eye contact with mothers toting babies in public places, and put my scowl on so they don't come anywhere near me. Works a charm - many years of practice makes perfect!

Grey, I HATE it when kids act like that - you can just see what's going through their mostly vacant little minds, and it's so lame. Your parents might kiss your butt, but I'm not going to. Scram!

I do the same thing, Pikasam. They may think it's hateful, but I don't see it that way.

I give them that face too.

As for changing your seat, I just get up to use the bathroom, then I pick another seat when I get back so as not to appear rude. I cannot sit next to a baby or a child while in a waiting room!

Ummm...not to enter into a controversy...but you could almost say the same thing about people with dogs, horses, or cats. I like the dogs and horses themselves, but don't always care for the owners. I haven't met a cat owner I didn't like. We're always proud of our own "kid".

I find cat owners to be the most interesting of people!!!

Ah, the mean old lady who bites and is most likely rabid scowl! Yes, it almost always works beautifully on both parents and kids. In the event that it failed, I would get up and move as far away from them as possible.

I've seldom been "baby stalked" but there was one incident.....
my mother loved babies and always made a big to-do over them. Well, during her final illness some people she knew, a married couple who were expecting came to visit her. Of course my mom made a big to-do over the pregnancy. So a couple weeks pass, nature takes it's course and the couple now have a baby. During those couple of weeks my mother also deteriorated to the point where she was literally on her death bed and was only semi-conscious for a few moments at a time during the day.

Hospice respite care came in so I could get out to pick up meds, food, etc. and at the grocery store I happen to run into this couple sans baby but they have to corner me and tell me all about it and how my mother was so excited about the fact that they were going to have a baby and now they had it and when could they bring it over to show it to my mother. I told them no, that would not be possible because my mother was now very ill. They were insistent - seeing their baby would cheer her up, they said. I said I'm sorry but my mother was dying and did not want visitors any longer. My mom had requested "no visitors" outside of family and very close friends at this point and these people did not fall into either category.

Still they insisted! Surely my mom would want to see their baby and why would I deny my mother that pleasure...why she couldn't be dying since they'd seen her just 2 weeks ago and she appeared to be doing well then. I'd been trying to be polite up to that point but that did it! I put on my scowl and right there in the middle of the grocery store, I switched to public speaking mode - you know the one where you project your voice so everyone in a large auditorium can hear you even though the amplifiers are out - and inquired as to what part of the word "dying" it was that they failed to understand. Then I started crying, turned around and walked away leaving them (and my grocery cart) in the aisle.

Thing is, had my mother been able to see them and the baby, I would have told them to stop by because my mother would have enjoyed it. But their kid was so important that they could or would not hear what I was saying.

They did not make an appearance at the memorial service 4 days later.