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My boyfriend just broke up with me and I have to say, if it wasn't for this book I'm reading I would have been really devastated... don't get me wrong, I am not happy we broke up. he could be sweet and nice, but then would become an A.H. and stop making plans with me the next... I believe he also has a drinking problem. BUT the book is Boot Camp for the broken hearted: how to survive (and be happy) in the jungle of love... by audry Valeriani and it really is helping me to focus on myself and see him for what he really is... someone I don't need to be around - I can do A LOT BETTER. Hope this helps!

Sorry its so painful. But it sounds like your on the right track, keep your chin up, and remember, we are here to tell you we care and offer what we can to support you. Sending you a big hug from the UK.

Break-ups seem the worst that can happen to us but as time goes on, we look at the guy and actually thank God we didn't stay together!

A year before I met my husband I was in a relationship that wasn't the best, but I "loved him!" Or so I thought...When I look back I can honestly say, I am so grateful he broke up with me. The man I married is the best!

Hang in there, love, focus on you and treat yourself well!

Break ups do have a way of really shaking up your world, usually without fair warning. That book you mentioned sounds interesting.

I recently published a break up survival guide of my own(Breaking Up Without Breaking Down) and have spent much time providing online support to those struggling with heartache.

For me, the process of breaking free from a 10-year, dead-end relationship was truly a cathartic experience. As it was happening, I feared that I might die and in a way, part of me did. But I can honestly say that in the end, it was all worth it. The love I am blessed with today is well worth every ounce of pain that I had to endure to get here.

You certainly can do a lot better and now that you are free, you will. Good luck and don't hesitate to holler if you need anything!

HELLO,
I know that it is rough even though you know that he is not so good. You don't need anyone with a drinking problem. I'm glad that you found the book to help you. Just treat yourself very good. I would not call or e-mail him. I would not take calls or e-mails from him. Better days & new experiences will come to you. Well, now you know what you don't want in a boyfriend. You seen from the previous comments that it was a good thing the breakup happened because they found happiness within themselves & the right person came into their lives. Hugs & good luck to you! Best Wishes, Judy K. Chicago.