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Something that I have noticed is if I meet someone, I know right away if they are "sensitive" too. Only later to find out that they are. Also, I cannot accurately predict anything about people who are close to me, like my children or husband. I think I am biased in my thinking about that person. It is hard to predict that my husband may lose his job, because it directly affects me and I want it to be something else and not a job loss. Is this true with anyone else?

Also, how do I manage the fear I have? Not of seeing neccessarily, but what I see and the feelings. I have given up this so many times because of fear. If I can learn to manage that, I could maybe find out why I am like this or what I should do with it. Each time I start back or have an overwhelming "vision" that I must deal with, I have an incident where I get the s**t scared out of me and I drop it like a hot potato! Only to have it creep back into my conscience again. Any tips on how to handle the fear factor?

Hi Overhauledmom!

This is an excellent topic and one that can benefit from feedback as well as chat (if anyone is interested you can PM me or send an email to ask@elleise.com to organize a time). Your wording is excellent!! I will go into more detail later this evening.

Thank you so much for your post

Elleise
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On the topic of managing fear

From my experience clairvoyance and other psychic abilities can be VERY overwhelming! This is why it is so very important to work on balancing, through meditation, exercising, talking, etc. before working with or enhancing these types of gifts. When it comes to emotions, it's like - let's say - concentrated dishwash or fruit juice For it to be pallatable it needs to be watered down some..lol.

For some of us we have that option, for others we kind of came with the concentrated version and desire greatly to have it toned down a bit. Does anyone else feel this way?

I see working with our abilities just as intricate as learning the piano or forensic science. Sadly though, we are up against many who have exploited it while science sorts through all of the variable data and political correctness (is that a word??).

To me it's a natural and complicated state of being and has it's downsides like anything. I personally wish it were treated just like anything else. In time, it will be.

As far as glimpses having to do with those close to us. I often use the analagy of holding an item or picture very closer to your nose and trying to identify it by nothing else but vision. I mean, it's blurry, to put it simply. When you have to, start by isolating feelings. Psychics and clairvoyants don't go out of their way to pick up negative feelings. So, if you do feel tense or fearful towards someone close, try to just go, "hmmmm, best to take notice." If you do and its nothing, no problems, we can learn something from a possible situation and apply it somewhere else.

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Overhauled Mom, I now hereby will call you MadeOver Mom! Who will make a difference.

Don't be afraid. I have seen Sylvia Browne on Montel state she cannot get any messages for herself.

I can and do, some are sad (deaths in my family) and other things happy occasions. It all balances out, as life is a balance of the good, the sad and the in between.


Why were you given this ability? My uneducated guess is, to help people and yourself, family and friends.

Even if you would see the job loss, just know, God will be sending your hubby something better.


Have a wonderful day.

I think that all you need is to accept this part of you and then you wont be afraid anymore. Just see it as part of who you are, natural part and it has no connection to good or bad - its just what it is.

Fear is one of the things in life that forces us to be cautious and protect ourselves. If you can find it comfortable to examine your fear and where it is coming from, then maybe you will be able to conquer and overcome it. Once you are able to conquer the fear then you should be able to proceed and examine this part of yourself that is trying to tell you something. I do not know of what faith, belief or religion you are, but if it is comfortable for you to do so, then create in your mind and heart a guide (ie: angel, spiritual helper, higher self)who will be with you at all times to protect and guide you. And give this guide a name that only you know, so you can call upon him/her anytime you feel this fear.

Hagit and Phyllis both have good points. Coming to accept this as a natural part of who you are can be a long and scary process. I would suggest scrutinizing the source of the fear. Inspect it closely, being very logical and methodical in stripping off the layers. When we are afraid, we feel and act instinctively, as a child. Maybe if you view it from the perspective of a parent dealing with the fears of a child, it will alleviate the tension of fear so you can comprehend it more clearly and objectively. One you know what you are afraid of and why, then you can deal with it. Some are able to conquer fear completely, others (like myself) find a way to work around it.

I've grown up with "abilities." My Mother is one of 4 girls and my sisters and I are 3 of 15 granddaughters. We all have some level of ability or "Speciality" for lack of a better term. My Mother's ability is with family members. She calls it her "Mother's Intuition." Mine started with precognitive dreams as a child, and later included recognizing spirits, and being a "receiving tower." I pick up on all kinds of things, conversations, a song playing on the radio when it's not on, other people's dreams, etc. At times it would get a bit noisy and I had to learn to turn it off to get any sleep.

I accepted my ability, learned how to deal with it, and most importantly continue to pay atention to it. The previous sentence is a summation of a 35 year process, and not an easy one. But it has been worth it for what I have learned and experienced, and been able to help others with. Hope this helps.

Agreed! There are so many levels of understanding, accepting and dealing with abilities. Experience and years by far are the best teachers along with a gentle and guiding hand. Usually when you are ready for one, one appears

Karen Elleise
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Hi Overhauledmom,
I see fear in two separate ways. I agree with Phyllis that it can be a guide for your safety. But it can also simply be your ego's response to something that doesn't involve the ego. It is the way your ego attempts to take over something that it doesn't understand. There is a big difference between egoic fear and instinctual fear. Egoic fear is tangled up with emotion. Instinctual fear is simply the "knowing" that something is wrong or dangerous.

The ego is like that! Since clairvoyance is purely spiritual, the ego doesn't like it. Ego feels the need to be in control at all times, and when left out of the loop, fear is the easiest way to control any situation. By keeping you in a state of fear, ego is controlling your clairvoyant talents by means of keeping you away from activities that don't include ego. The best way to ease the effects of egoic fear is to acknowledge the fear then let it dissipate. See it, but don't buy into it.

I hope you read A New Earth - Tolle explains egoic fear far better than I could!

Shay