BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids OH MY GOD!!!! Please tell me she's lying.

Or how 'bout we use the "ignore poster" feature on you mister, and continue our participation in this forum which is intended to provide support for people who share a common situation, and not for the purpose of an argument or debate (which seems to be what you're looking for). Maybe you should go back to am radio or wherever you came from.

You're absolutely right about things affecting your pill, but part of using your BC "properly" is being aware that things like antibiotics, sickness, diarrhea and grapefruit juice can affect absorption and effectiveness. You and I are aware of these things, so why isn't everyone else? WE know that if we have to take antibiotics or are sick, that we need to use another method for 2 weeks. All this stuff is written on the information leaflet that comes with EVERY pack of pills. You know the one - the one that most people throw in the garbage as they pull their pills out, and never think to read...

I have NEVER met someone who became accidentally pregnant when using BC properly. But I've met lots of people who take three pills every three days because they "forgot the other two" and are then horrified when they end up pregnant because "they were on the pill!!" Think what you like, but it's telling that people who don't want to get pregnant, seem to have no trouble avoiding it, while everyone else is getting "accidentally pregnant" left right and centre. Things that make you go "hmmmm".

Anyway, this is one of my hobbyhorses - I should rant off. You and Frank are both correct that abstinence is the only failsafe method, but it's not up to us to judge other peoples morals. As my mother would say to me "be good, and if you can't, be careful!"

Absolutely Pikasam,
Plus, if you're using two forms of BC (or three as we often did pre-vasectomy) your chances of pregnancy are even less.

Wait, stop, that's dirty. You, myrabeth, you know what it means? Yeah? Whisper it to me ... yeah, that's it, now go tell everyone else. So instead of saying ... that phrase ... let's think of something else. How about "fleam" or "flox flox flox."

Okay, let's move on to the next part.



Eh, eh, eh, that's dirty. You, frieda, you know what that word means? Yeah? Okay, come whisper it to me ... nope, that's not it ... yeah, yeah, that one. Good, go tell everyone else. We can't use that, it's dirty. Let's think of something else. How about "have you ever seen a dragon?"

Let's put it all together now.

LOL! Much better! : 0 ) I can uncover my eyes again.

OMG I just burst out laughing at my own joke because after reading the "revised" version, I read my tagline ... damn I'm in a good mood if I'm bursting out laughing at myself.

Theo,

One thing that might make you feel better about the suicide aspect of this...

Most people (and no, I'm not saying all) that take pills as their way of suicide - especially if they know someone is expected home - are not truly trying to kill themselves. It is a major cry for help, and should not be taken lightly. But pill overdose is th easiest to reverse, like I said, if they are exepcting their roommate to come home. Now were she living by herself - that might be something else.

It also sounds like she is trying to make you feel guilty. You break up with her, she says she's pregnant, then attempts suicide - this is pretty much crying out to make you feel guilty and take her back. She's been an emotional basketcase for a while. I honestly begin to wonder about bi-polar given the way you have described her in the past.

She may try to pull you in again. You have become her "drama". Your best bet is to stay as far from her and her friends as possible.

Good luck on your finals, and let us know how you are doing.

Thanks for all the responses. Just to clear one thing up, I did identify myself as the boyfriend before the nurse told me she wasnt pregnant.

One of our mutual friends went back to the hospital today. She came back and told me that her parents are with her now and she is doing fine. I've received voice mails from her father asking to meet with me, I dont know what I should do about that.

Its time to get down to business though. I'm putting the finishing touches on my senior thesis this weekend. Pretty soon, I'll have that Criminology degree and my real childfree days can begin.

Theo,

I don't think it is necessarily a BAD thing for you to meet with her father - as long as he knows up front that you are willing to meet with him only.

They may not realize the depth of "craziness" (for lack of a better word) that their daughter has been displaying. If she is truly bi-polar, then she may have only had "up" days with them, and they may have never seen this coming. You informing them of her manic and irrational phases may help them to get her the help she needs.

Just don't let them guilt you into getting back with her, or feeling responsible for her.

Let him know you are willoing to meet with him if it will help her out, but beyond that you need to stay out of her life.

BTW - you are being very kind and compassionate to consider doing this.

What you said is common in a lot of people who tend to have parental issues, bonding issues, detachment disorders. You have to make a choice, make her your priorty in life, which may mean no future because you will need to be there for every little thing she does, or let go of it. That is why in marriage you vow 'in sickness and in health'. People will go to last resorts to keep someone, just like saying they are pregnant when they are not. So either decide to be with her, or to not be with her. If you feel she has mental issues, then YOU are going to have to be the responsible one and decide what to do. And not to scare you, condoms are not 100%, so if you do leave, then get the paternity test for sure. And never put it past a person to poke a hole through the condom package so they get what they want without you knowing. I hope the best for you, and remember, whatever choice you make is yours. Things may work out if you stay by her side, but they may not. No one can foresee that. If you decide to stay with her and she wants you bad enough, then talk her into counseling/therepy, either alone or with you(preferably with you so you can have a voice in it). Then she can be given the help she needs to deal with any issues she may have with depression, bi-polar, etc. I have taken the hard road myself. My 'significant other' was "alergic to latex", and "couldn't get pregnant", and so on. Then when I was about rid of her, she says "she is pregnant". Odd though, it was another 3 years before she had our first. Has been a very rocky road, counseling, separations, money issues, etc. But I look at the fact that I had made the choice that I felt was best. I could of moved on at any time, but who knows what would of turned out then.