BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids OH MY GOD!!!! Please tell me she's lying.

Thedopespot, glad it turned out one way and on the other well you can't help her right now. Try not to take it hard, you acted appropriately and remember that.

Next for the pill/condom comment, please be very careful. Nothing not even the pill is 100% effective and of course a condom can break. I do remember an article about the pill specifically saying you are not 100% safe, I can not remember exactly things that effect it but I am pretty sure antibiotics and other medications and I won't swear to this but I think some over the counter supplements can effect the pill also. Just something to maybe look into. If I do find the article, I will post a url here.

I decided to do just that on this person and it is clear he makes a habit of posting obnoxious opinions in a range of forums on Bella. Am not interested in what he has to say - I want to listen to constructive people :-) Moving right along...will ignore his future posts....

o sorry. But the fact she was not stable and thats why you broke up does say alot. She obviously is in alot of emotioal turmoil and has some rather nasty revenge mixed in there too.
Try to keep your head. Realize she IS erratic, especially as you have broken up. Be calm. Explain that if she really IS expecting a baby, then you do need a paternity test. Find that out first then take it from there.
I know you do not need this, but heaven forbid, if she is pregnant, neither does the poor baby. The baby will need parents who can offer him/her a loving and stable enviroment, without hate and revenge used as a control tool between His/Her parents.

I hope that you do find the truth is that she is not expecting so you can both get on with out children pressure between you both, but what ever the outcome, you are in my prayers.

Frank, you must be jealous of us in order to make such remarks like that. Some chick (or chicks) must have gotten your sperm and your $$$ and now you want everyone else to be miserable just like you. Do yourself a favor, stick to topics that you know.

Having read ALL the posts now. Sorry I posted about her being possibly pregnant. I am so glad for you that she is not. But I am so very sorry for her for the emotional mess she is obviously in. Maybe now the authorities are aware of her pain and mental and emotional state she will be refurred to the help she needs.

I hope you are able to let go of the trama of it all too, and find that your life is good.

Well it's all come out well for thedopespot and I'm glad of that. I'm also very sorry for the woman who is so obviously unwell. I hope she gets the help she needs.

I work in a mental health team, and it sounds as if she may have been deteriorating and the ending of the relationship just tipped her over the edge. But behaving to thedopespot as she did was neither kind nor reasonable.

As for the nurse passing on the news about the young woman not being pregnant - I live in the UK and it's very different here. Only the patient's actual Nearest Relative under the terms of the Mental Health Act (if admitted to hospital for such a reason) has the right to receive medical information and there are certain definitions in the Act defining who can act as Nearest Relative. I know it's very different in the States where you do not have the Data Protection Act laws on confidentiality and there may be different arrangements in place about passing on confidential information.

Well said Gillian.

Whew...what a load off of you thedopespot! Enjoy your graduation and I hope you can put this relationship behind you It sounds like anyone who isn't manic or bipolar would be too 'mellow' for her!

"Frank, you must be jealous of us in order to make such remarks like that"

Jealous of what? And remarks like what (which indicate my "jealousy")?

"Some chick (or chicks) must have gotten your sperm and your $$$ and now you want everyone else to be miserable just like you."

I'm not miserable. I enjoy myself greatly. I have an opinion, seemingly opinions that differ from others. Why should that bother me or you?


"Do yourself a favor, stick to topics that you know."

So you think I am mistaken in believing that one never risks unwanted pregnancy by simply not having sex with the person one wishes to guarantee one will not impregnate? You think it's bad advice to avoid promiscuity? Huh.

A guy reports the woman he has been sleeping with says she is pregnant. He states: "This cant be, I've always wore a condom AND she was on birth control." Responses here include: �you can't trust a woman to take BC pills� and �she very well could have stopped taking her BC pills�

Those remarks don't indicate that she could not have become pregnant except by ceasing to take birth control?

Another thing I know about is how to read.

I based my perception of the OP solely on his posts. As stated above, I can read. Your opinion of this fellow differs. I don't think any of you are stupid or miserable because you disagree with me.

There are plenty of people here and other forums to maintain mutual masturbation societies where everyone agrees and thinks everything someone else says or does is nice or fun or clever or worthy of sympathy. Good for you. You don't me to do additional stroking.

Here's a nice, fun and clever idea: if you dislike or disagree with my opinions, make a substantive argument as to why they are insupportable. Of course, as I have done in this post and in the past, I will attempt to counter your criticisms and support my remarks. After that you can go back to posting your personal opinions of me as miserable or somehow jealous or simply as someone who doesn't know what is being said. Or, you might actually contrive to continue a discussion without the ad hominem input, though I don't really expect that.

> I do remember an article about the pill specifically saying you are not 100% safe,

Yeah -- I knew someone in college who was conceived on the pill, and someone I once worked with was from a large family. Her mother told the kids, "You were condoms, you were the pill, you were a diaphram..." Yup, fertile myrtle who used contraception and still got pregnant. No method is 100% effective, barring abstinence.

But I'm glad that the truth was she was lying (not that she lied, but that you aren't forced into fatherhood that you don't want), and sad that she is so messed up that she was pulling you down. Good to distance yourself!