BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids OH MY GOD!!!! Please tell me she's lying.

Focus on you, not on her. Worst case scenario, you've got 8 months (or so) after graduation to come up with a plan. Best case, she's psychotic and looking for attention and trying to ruin your life because you dumped her.

Don't give her the satisfaction of destroying your results, instead put it out of your mind and revise, revise, revise.

The one thing she wants is for you to 'suffer' as much as she is. She wants you to feel as 'hurt' as she does. She wants you to go through as much 'pain' as she is. She wants to continue to rule, dominate and occupy your life, Mind and every waking thought.
What better way than to try to wreak havoc?

The best way you could respond is to be as cool, calm and collected as you can be. Don't yell, retaliate, remonstrate, argue or blow up at her. Above all, don't lose it.
Tell her you hope everything goes well with the pregnancy. To let you know how she's getting on, and when the baby's born, you'll submit to a paternity test.

Then, ignore her. Every call, ever word, every attention-seeking ploy, every e-mail, every communication.
Ask anyone you're close to, to fend her off, and help you detach from her. If you're living at home with your folks, try to be open an honest with them, and gain their support and protection.
You don't have to do this alone.
In fact, you don't have to do this at all......

Loads of good advice here from others....

Try to follow it.
Especially the bits that mention you really should focus on you, you first, and to look after yourself.

I totally agree with everything else here that is said...especially the paternity test. Insist on it. And good for you for graduating and being responsible by using a condom.

I can't add any other advice to what has been given here -- there are a lot of good ideas here.

You can only let others control your life if you give them permission to do so. Don't give her that permission.

UPDATE!

Well, it all exploded last night. It seems she tried to kill herself. She was taken to the hospital because her roomate found her on the bathroom floor, in her dorm room, barely conscious - she had taken a bunch of sleeping pills! Everything happened so fast. She told me she was pregnant and she tries to commit suicide within hours.

I went to the hospital last night to check up on her, she had her stomach pumped and everything. I'm glad she is alright but I did ask the nurses the million dollar question "Is she pregnant?", they told me no.

Man, I was soooo tired this morning I missed both of my classes. I dont know what is going to happen with her but at least I know I WILL NOT be a father. I can now focus on finals and graduation with a clear head. Thank God!!!!

Yipppeee! She sounds really psycho. Glad you got out of it okay. Can you imagine how that would have affected a pregnancy taking all those pills? At least if she really was pregnant, it wouldn't have lasted long it sounds like. Whew!

Good thing!
Now take the advice of all the good people on this forum, and cut yourself off from her completely.
Could I just say though, I'm very sorry this has just had such a devastating effect on her.
To rely upon a relationship to the extent that it is the full meaning of your life, and you become obssessive, as she obviously had done, is patently unhealthy, and extreme. But I am sorry that she has suffered in such a way as to cause damage to herself and to others, in her distress.
Be kind to her in your thoughts, even if you do close everything down between her and you.
She is in obvious pain and this is stopping her from moving on.
You are not to blame for this. It's not your fault, and I'm not saying you should feel any guilt whatsoever.
Simply accept the responsibility of your relationship with her, be glad you have moved on and hope she will be able to do the same.

dopespot,
I'm so glad to hear the news! I feel sorry for her because she's obviously got some mental issues, but like Alexandra said, it's not your fault. So, don't feel guilty about anything. She needs help (and hopefully she'll get it), and you need to graduate. So, get to class, dude!

Hang in there!

Well you dodged more than one bullet there! Whew is right.

Can you imagine the nightmare of your life if you were saddled to this woman forever? She really does have serious mental issues. Thankfully, she not passing them down, as of yet. Can I hope for never?

Anyway, like everyone said, you need to cut yourself off from her TOTALLY. Any expression of kindness on your part will just extend her hope that your "relationship" will work. Though on some level, I think she's just looking for any sort of attention since she was the one to break up with you.

Have a wonderful drama-free graduation and congrats.

I have two things to say:

For women who can actually get pregnant, it surprises me to find that so many seem to think you can't get pregnant if you are on the pill and the man is wearing a condom.

Time to talk with your gynecologists.

Second, I have to say I have no sympathy for the original poster at all, who to me, a man, comes off very badly based on his own writing illustrating his personality and attitude.

One more word of advice for you - if you want to avoid this kind of situation, keep it in your pants.