BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids OH MY GOD!!!! Please tell me she's lying.

Some of you may know I broke up with my girl a couple of weeks ago because she was too erratic - "Too mellow for a relationship" thread in the Relationships section.

Today was actually the first time I've seen her since then. She told me that she has been in the hospital because she had a nervous breakdown (her friends told me that isnt true, she just disappeared for a couple of weeks). But then she dropped a BOMBSHELL. She tells me: "I'm pregnant and its yours sucka! We're having this baby!" <----WHAT?!!!

This cant be, I've always wore a condom AND she was on birth control. Her best friends told me that they believe she is lying and that she has seriously lost it since we've broken up. She hasnt been to class, hasnt called anyone...nothing.

I'm four weeks from graduation, I dont need this.

dopespot,

Excuse me? WE'RE having this baby? No, honey, YOU'RE having this baby (if you actually are) and I'm insisting on a paternity test!

I'm so very sorry about your awful news. You absolutely do not need this! And good for you for always wearing a condom. You know you can't trust a woman to take BC pills, etc in this baby-crazy world. Plus, all the diseases out there. I used to work in medical billing. Believe me. I KNOW.

And congratualtions on your almost-graduation too. What's your major?

0_0 "sucka"??????

Yeah paternity test... all the way!

How much you want to bet that if you use those two words she'll have a mysterious and sudden miscarriage? She seriously needs to talk to a psychiatrist, this is not a sane woman you're dealing with.

Good for you for being responsible and wearing a condom but if she wanted to try and hold on to you, she very well could have stopped taking her BC pills.

She could be lying and your very right to ask for a paternity test but keep in mind that unless she decides to have an amnio, that test can't be done until the baby is born. Normally since your not married, the law doesn't assume your the parent so therefore your not going to have to pay anything unless a test shows you are indeed the Father.

I hope you can set this aside, don't let her get to you and finish with your schooling, don't let this overshadow this time of great achievment in your life.

My hunch is she is lying to you, to get you back.

NOOOOOOOOOOO! My hunch is she's lying too.

A woman lied about this to my DH when he was younger (long b4 I met him). She extorted money out of him for an abortion, and after the fact he found out she was lying. Really, he got off easy of course.

If she's losing it mentally, she might resort to something like that. Her use of the word "sucka" makes me think Extortion.

Take a deep breath, and Skeeter's absolutely right, insist on a paternity test. Let us know how it goes. I'm SO sorry. At least one thing you know after this...it's very clear you did the right thing getting out of this relationship.

My thought is she's lying too, BTW. Sorry I didn't mention that.

Two words: Paternity test.

My gut feeling is that she's lying. Playing the "hospitalized for nervous breakdown" card didn't work because her friends told you that wasn't true so she played the baby card.

But...what is she trying to accomplish? Methinks she's feeling rejected and is out for some revenge. I'd stay as far away from her as possible for a time...you've said she's erratic ....might it be possible that she's bi-polar?

Heck of a time for you to have such a thing happen but don't dwell on it now. Here's a fact which many men are not aware of - in women, stress can cause late menses. So it is entirely possible that she's simply late due to stress and therefore only thinks she's pregnant.

Please stay away from her until after your graduation. Don't accept calls or visits. Don't let her destroy your success.