BellaOnline Forums Family Child Loss How Do I Cope During Easter?

I miscarried twins recently (in February) at 8.5 weeks. The pain is still great and I cry often. How in the world do I cope during the Easter holiday, especially when all of the family and their children will be together? I was so excited that my two would be joining us next Easter. I cry now just thinking about it. Easter used to be one of my favorite holidays. Only a few of my closest family members know about the pregnancy and miscarriage- we were waiting for the 13 wk mark to share the news.

Also, I have a very insensitive cousin (who does not know) who mockingly makes comments such as, "Don't worry, you'll be a mommy soon". This comment was made to me last mother's day, as I stood aside, when the mommies were lining up first to serve themselves at brunch. How do I respond to comments like this?

First of all, its OK to feel so sad and cry, and if that bothers anyone else, too bad! You have had a terrible loss and need to do what you need to do, and not satisfy anybody else's ideas of what is appropriate.

As for the cousin, maybe you should let her/him know privately about your loss ahead of time so there are no inadvertant hurtful remarks made when you see each other. And if there are and they make you cry, go ahead, you don't have to come up with polite comments to make an insensitive boor feel good.

This Easter will be hard for you, but with your family's support and love you will get through it, and who knows? Next year may be better!
Wishing you many happier days ahead!