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I was emailing a friend yesterday, and mentioning that we need to get together with two girlfriends that we both used to work with. They're all mid 20's - way younger than me, I was their boss, but I digress ...

Anyway, "P" suggested that we all go for lunch, and then come back to her place to watch her wedding video that they FINALLY got, over a year after the wedding - and she said "I should try my dress on - I wonder if it still fits?"

(P has a serious wedding hangup - a year later, she's still going on and on about the wedding - it's a little weird - but anyways ...)

So "J" replies and says " I will pass on the wedding dress trials seeing as I am already having issues with wearing my regular clothes anymore. Already had to buy some shirts that leave room for growth over the next 7 months. Trying to fit into skinny clothes is depressing!"

Gak! She's preggers already! And they haven't been married a year yet!! Last I heard, they were trying to save some money to get out of renting and into a house (tough in a market where house prices doubled in 3 years) and just enjoying being newlyweds. Guess the whole baby powder and fluffy bunny cutesy mommy and daddy thing proved too much to resist.

So dammit, now the entire afternoon is going to be the girls preening and fawning over the mother to be. Barf. Plus no going to the pub either.

At least P gets it - they were married a few months before J, and she's wisely decided that she has PLENTY of time to nest with hubby, do some travel, and move her career along before she needs to think about breeding. Plus she's not entirely convinced she even needs to, and has often questioned me on my thinking behind a childfree life. So yay. at least she'll be well prepared.

Sigh. Each to their own, I suppose, and I did know that J wanted kids, but it's just damn depressing to see her fall by the wayside so soon...

Suggest going to a restaurant that serves liquor and have the wait staff keep 'em coming! No reason you can't drink.

That's a good idea, Anatasia.

With a member of the party knocked up, you've got a built-in designated driver for this and any other gatherings for the next few months. Enjoy!

Yuk! Maybe you should send them a link to that article I posted yesterday about the maternity wards. That might sober them up a bit.

Suggest going to a restaurant that serves liquor and have the wait staff keep 'em coming! No reason you can't drink.

Yes, no reason you have to suffer too!

Totally agreeing with what everyone has already said. SInce you've already agreeed to go, pick somewhere you can order your drug of choice. Mine would be more of the fudgey variety.

I know how you feel Pikasam. Alot of people I know are having kids, and I feel the same way you do. I am worried if my BFF ever decides to have kids. I will worry how that will change things b/w us. We all know how that goes, BFF gets preggo, no more time for anything.... Yikes!!!! She is my only friend!!!

i'm going through that now with one of my BFF. she's pregnant due in may and i'm trying to spend a lot of time with her now b/c i know when the baby comes that will change. i know we'll still be close but as with my one friend who has two kids even though we've remained close the friendship has definitely changed. it's mostly the time factor. in fact now i mostly talk to her through email even though she lives in my area b/c she said it's too hard for her to talk on the phone. we still see each other and i have to say that she does make an effort once in a while to get a sitter which is nice.

having said all that i'm now at the pt. that i've resigned myself to the fact that as i get older my social life will just continue to dwindle. i'm hoping to get a CF group started in my area and i have already gotten 6 responses which i think is great.

i really feel for you yorkiesRcool. i can definitely relate to how you feel. i have other friends that i'm close to but they are two of my very BFF and that's why at times it's very hard.

to make it even more difficult my two BFF are sisters and when we hang out it's usually just the three of us. so... you know when my pregnant friend has her baby it's going to change the dynamics of our group. that is what concerning me right now.

indigo

I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes (when I have a bad day) I think that everybody I know has/gets/wants children and that I am the only one who doesn't want any....

Juliana

Oh no! I hate it when a friend springs it on you like that. A few months ago we had plans to go on a hike w/ another couple...they picked us up and as we were pulling in to the parking area for the hike, the girl said "yeah they'll have to find a replacement at work for me in about 6 months because I'm having a baby!" My first thought was #$%^ just take me back home! Needless to say we all had to talk about babies for the entire time...

And just a warning on your friend P--I had two friends who weren't planning on kids and once one of them got pregnant, the other one did too w/in 3 months so they could have their babies together! Hope that won't happen with your friend.