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4th Miscarriage in 3 years #369888 01/26/08 12:59 AM
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I'm new to this site and have taken the opportunity to read thru the various postings regarding miscarriages and I'm grateful that so many women have generously shared their experiences. I have recently experienced my fourth miscarriage aprox 1 week ago. The first time it happened I was completely devastated. I was pregnant with twins and experienced that 11 week ultrasound where the technition tells you that there is no heart beat. It happened a second time at around 8 weeks and the last two have been so early that I didn't even have the opportunity to have an ultrasound. I am trying to stay optimistic and reading the stories of women who have also experienced multiple miscarriages only to go on and have a full term pregnancy has been extremely encouraging. I just wish I knew if there was going to be light at the end of the tunnel for me personally. It's difficult to visualise this after so much disappointment.

Re: 4th Miscarriage in 3 years [Re: PattiL] #386146 03/04/08 05:17 AM
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My heart goes out to you. I just had my first miscarriage, first pregnancy. When that ultra sound tech. says "No heart beat". It is like the worst words in the world! This happened to me a couple days ago. I had a D&C and now I am healing physically. But emotionally, I don't know how long it will take. I think coming together and talking helps. Love and understanding help. Are you planning to try again?

Re: 4th Miscarriage in 3 years [Re: PattiL] #402893 04/05/08 04:19 AM
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I am so sorry to hear about your lost. I am 39yrs old and been trying to have a baby for 2yrs in Aug.2008. I had a tubal reversal to give my new husband of 5yrs now a son we have no childern together and he has been wanting a son so we decided 2yrs ago to go for it. I have 3 childern 16,20,20 and he has 1 child who is 6yrs old and lives with us. Since my reversal i have had 2 miscarriage and 1 tubal pregnancy so i know the pain it has been so hard but with the last pregnancy i just know it was going to go all the way because my dr. had did a biopsy and said that my uterus had thinned out and he put me on progestrone to help it hold the fetus but it did not work it turned out this pregnancy was in my tubes. I am so confussed and disappointed i want to try again so much but i dont want that disappointment again. My husband has gotten scarred because i was told with this last pregnancy i could die if the tubes had ruptured i will die instantly so he is afraid that next time i might not get to the dr. in time. But my dr. says it is ok to try again so i will give it a try. My biological clock is running out i will be 40 this year and i wanted to have a child by time i was 41 so it is really getting scarry for me.

Re: 4th Miscarriage in 3 years [Re: PattiL] #407120 04/15/08 09:22 AM
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I am also new to this site, and I just want you to know that I know where you are coming from, I just had my 5th miscarriage on feb 28th. Each time it has gone wrong around 8-9 weeks and its devastating. I am 42 and really wanted a child but I didnt meet my husband until I was 38, and we sure have tried with success each time but I dont seem to be able to sustain pregnancy for some reason. Been to london for lots of tests and the only thing they came up with is that when I am pregnant I develop a blood clotting disorder, for which I was on daily aspirin but it didnt seem to make any difference on this fifth one. I also was having twins on the fourth miscarriage and lost one on week 7 and the second on week 8. They were scanning me early due to history. But now I think we are going to give up, because it is just too devastating. My husband was also a wreck this time, he has always been strong for me but this time even he was a mess.
No matter what anyone says or tells you, they dont understand unless they have been there.
I can only say I am so sorry for your loss. There are so many of us out there arent there? Life seems so unfair. I wish you well during this very emotional time. Word of advice, go with your feelings, pamper yourself and be kind to yourself. Bottling up the feelings and not talking to your partner is the worst thing you can do. I did it after the fourth one and nearly lost my marbles and my husband. This 5th one has been awful but I have learnt from past mistakes, but am still pretty miserable, angry, sad etc etc etc.

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Re: 4th Miscarriage in 3 years [Re: katie1965] #426981 06/16/08 12:22 AM
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Katie,
Your situation sounds so similar to mine. I also can get pregnant but have problems sustaining the pregnancy to full term. It must have been totally devastating to lose one of your twins, then the other one week later. I want to have a child in the future but cannot fathom having to cope with another miscarrage. Has things gotten better for you?

Re: 4th Miscarriage in 3 years [Re: Angel216] #427068 06/16/08 07:42 AM
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Well sorry firstly for the late reply, but things are getting better for me slowly but surely, but we have decided to stop getting pregnant, as I dont think I can cope with another disaster. My husband is so supportive and understanding, but it is still hard when I see people with young babies or young children. I think the hardest part is making the decision which is right for yourself. But our choice has been made for us really so that is life I guess, but bloody unfair. I just take each day as it comes and still find myself weeping for silly things, I think it will always affect me this way but I am thankful for my husband,I couldnt have a nicer one.
thanks angel216

Re: 4th Miscarriage in 3 years [Re: katie1965] #436414 07/18/08 07:07 AM
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Katie,
I'm very sorry for your losses. I understand your sensitivity around young children - my friend had a baby last week and I had a miscarriage this week. It was comforting to hold the baby, though also very sad. This is my second m/c and we will try at least once more.

I find I cry most easily at stop-lights.

I wanted to ask about what you have tried for the possible clotting disorder - have you tried heparin therapy? (Heparin has a very bad name in the US right now, but appearently it can be useful, too.)

As I have lost two preganancies before 7 weeks, I'm pretty sure my problem is with progesterone - anyone had success with that therapy?

Laurie

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You all amaze me. You are so strong, so brave. My heart goes out to all of you. Reaching out and talking is so good for all of us. Those of us who've never "been there" need the education you are providing. Thank you so much.

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I'm still learning my way around this site, but I thought I'd look for some help here. I am 30 years old and have experienced 3 miscarriages (first trimester, weeks 6-8) in the past couple of years. I am pregnant again right now, but my ultrasound today was not very promising. I am supposed to be 6 weeks 2 days, but the ultrasound dated me at 5 weeks without a heartbeat. I am trying to stay positive, but I'm very afraid that I am going to lose this one too. After my 3rd miscarriage I went to a fertility specialist who discovered I had the Prothrombin gene mutation, which according to my OB/GYN could be treated with aspirin alone (which I have been taking along with my pre-natals). However, I just found out that I have the MTHFR A1298C mutation as well. Is this why I am losing all my babies? Is there anyone else out there with a similar situation as mine? I am looking for any advise, I am so distraught and scared.

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The reason for my two miscarriages is not a mutation so I am sorry that I can not help. I have luteal phase dysfunction which means my ovaries quit making progesterone around 12 weeks. I lost the babies at 14 weeks and 15 weeks. The doctor says I can just take fake progesterone and everything will be fine, but I'm afraid. I don't know if we should try again. I'm praying for God's wisdom. I will also be praying for all of you. This may be a mute question, but have you been to an endocrinologist the specializes in genetic issues?


becca

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