I am also new to this site, and I just want you to know that I know where you are coming from, I just had my 5th miscarriage on feb 28th. Each time it has gone wrong around 8-9 weeks and its devastating. I am 42 and really wanted a child but I didnt meet my husband until I was 38, and we sure have tried with success each time but I dont seem to be able to sustain pregnancy for some reason. Been to london for lots of tests and the only thing they came up with is that when I am pregnant I develop a blood clotting disorder, for which I was on daily aspirin but it didnt seem to make any difference on this fifth one. I also was having twins on the fourth miscarriage and lost one on week 7 and the second on week 8. They were scanning me early due to history. But now I think we are going to give up, because it is just too devastating. My husband was also a wreck this time, he has always been strong for me but this time even he was a mess.
No matter what anyone says or tells you, they dont understand unless they have been there.
I can only say I am so sorry for your loss. There are so many of us out there arent there? Life seems so unfair. I wish you well during this very emotional time. Word of advice, go with your feelings, pamper yourself and be kind to yourself. Bottling up the feelings and not talking to your partner is the worst thing you can do. I did it after the fourth one and nearly lost my marbles and my husband. This 5th one has been awful but I have learnt from past mistakes, but am still pretty miserable, angry, sad etc etc etc.
Last edited by katie1965; 04/15/08 09:23 AM.