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Remember the Seinfeld episode "Come see the BAYYYYBBBBEEEEE" and didn't the baby turn out to be shockingly ugly? LOL!

Honestly, babies do nothing for me, they seem so dependent and helpless, and it scares me to think of being responsible for something like that. Plus, you can't hardly communicate with them and they can't tell you how they're feeling or what they need. I like intelligent, well-behaved older kids that I can have a conversation with. Or ones young enough and naive enough that I can playfully mess with them.

Cindy

I very rarely hold a baby - only if it belongs to a close friend of mine, and it's not all snottied up. But, like you, as soon as I have a cuddle or play with a toddler everybody forgets that I've told them I'm not having children.

It's all with the 'ooohhh, kids like you, you'll be great when you're a mum,' which makes me so angry!

I love babies and I love holding them, as long as they're not fussing! But it seems when the new moms bring the babies into work that everyone ooohs and aaaahs over that baby for.ev.er. I don't mind stopping and saying how cute the baby is, but then I leave because I have work to do. How do people have the time to stand around for forty minutes looking at a baby?? I'd much rather get my work done so I can go home.

When I think about all the time and energy wasted on the last place I worked on seeing kids, having mom's drop by and all the damn talking about kids I can't believe sh**t gets done. But, what ticked me off...When my mom was real sick last year and dying I was trying to get to the hospital every evening b/c we didn't know if she would pass away or not. Well, it was over an hour drive and I had a broken right toe so I asked my boss if I could work through my lunch and leave early. Well, he said yes, but was not too happy about. Well, after a little while he just seemed so aggervated with me. For gods sake my mother was dying. BUT have one of the moms in my department miss work for sick kids...oh hold the freakin phone...she has a sick kid!!!! One girl missed so much b/c her kid had some lung breathing problem not life threatening. Meanwhile, my mom is on ventilator!!!! I should of went to a higher boss b/c I know he would of been pi**ed that my boss was doing that...he had also just lost his mother that year. Anyway, I quit that job b/c I had just had enough with it all together. But mom's sure do get my sempathy in the work-place!!!!!

Sorry didn't mean to rant...but gosh that felt good!! Thanks for being her for me you guys!!

That is just great!!! I love it..I love it!!!

Jzel, that sucks. I work with a bunch of moms and I know what you mean. Mostly they're really good, but every once in a while I get aggravated. Oh well. At least they are getting better about subbing for me if I need it.

Yes, I never can muster up the crazy enthusiasm and hysterics that I see many women go into when they see someone's baby. I just say, "Cute", or "Congratulations" and then I'm done. If it's not a family member/friend's baby, I have absolutely no desire to hold it, and I am not the craziest about holding babies I know anyway. I never quite know what to do with them once they're on my lap, and I think it gives others ideas that one day I'll have "some of my own". Not so much.

I don't blame you for making a fuss - women who get that way over strangers' babies seem like aliens to me!

I like some babies because some are really cute (some are just butt-ugly, but that's another topic) but I hate, hate, spitup. It smells so awful!

I will not hold a baby unless it's related to me or it's one of my friends'. Hopefully they are all done with that now!

Jzel, that is terrible. It seems that in many workplaces, if you have kids you get a pass on so many things; kids are used as an excuse and no one questions. If you don't have kids, your personal difficulties can't possible be important or valid.(sarcasm) It's awful that some people believe they have the right to pass judgement on the "worthiness" of others' pain.