BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Article recommending women should settle

Had to share this, because it made me very grateful to be CF. It's written by a woman who had a child through sperm donor because she hadn't found Mr. Right. Now, her theory is she was way too picky, and should have just picked someone who could help with the baby and money.

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What a load of claptrap. Methinks the author protests too much and is merely trying to justify her sad little life. She does go on, and on, and on...

I particularly enjoyed the generalisation that, deep down, every woman longs for "the traditional life" of marrige and children - and if she doesn't admit it, it's only a feminist front: "all I can say is, if you say you�re not worried [about being 30 and unmarried], either you�re in denial or you�re lying.In fact, take a good look in the mirror and try to convince yourself that you�re not worried, because you�ll see how silly your face looks when you�re being disingenuous."

God, this stuff is so depressing. The suffragettes and their feminist successors must be rolling over in their graves, and the men who read the article considering celibacy or gay love in a whole new light.

Thanks for sharing this, Frieda!

Wow, every heterosexual woman wants to be married and have a baby?

Every single one. And if they don't they are lying.

What a load of BS! She should thought about what dating was like before she went to the sperm bank. But, nooooooooooo, I want a babeeeeeee, and that was a good enough reason.

You know, some women didn't settle, got married and still didn't want a child. If you don't have children you do more than pass each other in the hall, you know.

Sheesh, I hope no poor guy falls into her trap. (Though with her aging 10 years in 10 months, I don't think many will find her all that appealing)

"Even women who settle but end up divorced might be in a better position than those of us who became mothers on our own, because many ex-wives get both child-support payments and a free night off when the kids go to Dad�s house for a sleepover."

Eek. This woman sounds mentally ill. I didn't settle, and "having the potential to be a good father" wasn't even on my list. Maybe that's her problem.

So the woman's better off, but how about the kids she married the wrong guy for just to create?!

This makes me hate people.

And.......how many fathers DON'T pay child support and how many ex-husbands DON'T take the kids off her hands once in a while?

She could have adopted OR even participated in a foster program.

The assumption made in the Article is that all women want to get married to have children - I disagree with this assumption therefore the reasoning in the article is flawed IMO...
Some women want to get married, others prefer to remain single, some marry and choose not to have children, some marry and have children and others remain single and have children or go to sperm banks...
Conclusion: We are all different, what's so difficult about that?
It's accepted that men are all different and not just fathers-in-waiting...or fathers-in-denial...
I wonder what she'd say about the young couples on this site that have opted for sterilization...argue your way out of that one!

I just posted this on my sisters facebook - she and I tend to find things like this and wind each other up.

I wrote this under the URL

"That's right.. don't worry if he is a wife beater, a peadophile - who cares if he has bad BO and you don't find him physically attractive? Who cares if you can't hold a decent conversation with him... he's male and he has sperm - that's all we care about, remember?"

It took women so long to claw their way out of the home. How come so many want to claw their way back in?