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So for those of you love birds out there that have been married for over 10 years how do you make it work?


Any tips



-Sam

Love, listen, give, forgive. Love yourself and expect your mate to treat you as you treat him or her (with love and respect, even if they won't do the dishes or pick up the dirty laundry). I think mutual respect is probably the number one thing. And sometimes, you just have to remind your partner about all of the above. And, oh yeah, some good lovin' (you know what I mean) really helps! Grammy loves her man after 16+ years, more every day.

We haven't hit the ten year mark. In fact, we're only halfway there. But the best advice I can offer is this:

Keep the friendship side of the relationship strong and healthy, and everything else falls into place. Remember, there's a lot that goes into a good friendship! Respect, listening, honesty/trust, plenty of personal space/time, etc.

But if you think about it in general terms, the things that kill most relationships, or even just scar them, are the same things that go wrong in friendships. If your mate is also your best friend, and you treat him or her as such, most problems are easily worked through or just never pop up at all.

Hello, my husband and I have been married for 28 years now. Well, I can't say, it didn't have its rough times but, I believe, they were the best, challenging times because it was trying to find out how much we really, really love one another. Am I willing to struggle and sacrifice for the sake of our children or make it easy for me and leave the marriage, turn my back on my children...In those very rough times, I prayed. I really prayed hard to Jesus, gave him the problem to solve and to let me pass this challenge and triumph over these times of hardships...

In good times and in bad times, I always pray to Jesus. I praise and thank Him in everything that happens to me, my husband, my family.

And this way keeps my marriage just wonderful.