BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids Are you on Birth Control?

Um, yeah, I'd think so! My ex used to threaten to replace mine with Tic Tacs - unfortunately for him, Micronor looks nothing like Tic Tacs, and I'm really not as stupid as I am cabbage-looking ...

I remember having a stand up argument with a guy I worked with after a few drinks at a company dinner one night. His partner was 10 years older than him, got "accidentally pregnant" at 43 and decided to keep the baby, as it was going to be pretty much her last shot. The guy was busy telling me that the baby was the best thing that had ever happened to him (like you had a choice, dumba$$) and that I needed to have one. After I told him it wasn't going to happen, he said "what if you got "accidentally" pregnant?" to which I replied that I'd have a "deliberate" abortion.

That was the point at which he got to his feet and looked like he was going to punch me out. "You wouldn't dare!" he hissed. I was starting to get a little riled up by now (and the people we were with looked a little nervous) so I leaned back in my chair and replied "just because I made one mistake, doesn't mean I'd compound it with another. Just watch me".

At that point, his partner glared at him, smiled at me, and said "you go girl. This a$$hole didn't speak to me for nearly three months after I told him, so he can sit down. NOW."

The guy in the OP should have just gotten a kick in the nvts. Here, let me make sure that a righteous prat like you doesn't have any more ...

You poor thing! What an a..hole!! It always amazes me how some people have NO CONCEPT of what is apprpriate conversation. It's tricky to figure out how to respond to people like him. Basically, you have to either -
A) Try to change the subject
B) Brush it off with some kind of humorous response
or
C) Get mad and give an honest answer (an answer that they obviously won't even TRY to understand)

I am currently fed up with people I don't know very well asking me when I'm going to have kids. I have thought long and hard about a good response and I found one. The next time someone asks me that, I am going to say, "I can't have kids". And they will feel like a jerk for even bringing it up!

I found that this tends to be casual drunk (Hopefully he was drunk) converstatoin and probably shouldn't be taken too seriously. Like On a Roll said- people really do have no concept of how sensitive a subject this is for people- I never did until I started reading this message board.

My group of friends keeps asking me when we're going to have a baby- and it was fine, only mildy annoying- when my answer was that we'd eventually get around to it and that would be the end of the questioning. Now that I'm actually OFF the pill, it's starting to get more annoying. I mean it's not like I can just snap my fingers and become PG. One lady at church asks me almost every Sunday. Next time I'm going to tell her- look if you see me swigging down a giant cup of coffee.... DON'T ASK.

Though I probably would've been too shocked by his insanely inappropriate, rude question to speak, I might've actually said something like Linux Lady. I can't believe the nerve of some people! That guy sounds like a complete neanderthal who thinks that a woman's only place is barefoot and pregnant taking care of the housework. Also, does he think that women are stupid enough not to notice tampering when it comes to their pills? I know I would notice, that's for sure. They are not open to begin with - like others have said, they have to be popped through the little bit of foil on the card. Geez!

That's one of those moments that to me is as strange as if the guy just unscrewed his head. I think I would have seriously asked, "why, what are you planning?" Hopefully, he would understand what a threatening thing he'd just said. I'm grateful some people say those comments, though, because then I know who to stay away from.

TresstheFool - I agree - people who say things like that are automatically written off. Someone saying something like that saves me the trouble of actually having to get to know him/her and I can just filter him/her out like the bad egg that he/she is.

I'm in between. I have heard some good things about that new kind Yaz and I'm going to discuss it with my GYN next trip. Anybody else using it?

Someone on another thread said she says, "Wow, why don't you ask me a *personal* question?" I think that response would have been quite appropriate in this case!