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Total respect - sometimes the only way to hammer things home to idiots is to say 'shocking' things like that.

I've had people thrust babies at me and I'm like 'what do you want me to do with *IT*? - Thankfully after that comment, noone has tried again....

.. however put a kitten within 20 feet of me and watch me run over to try and pet him / her

Everything is fine now, but for a brief time in my family, there was baby-mania. Now, unless it is for Christmas or Thanksgiving, when DW and I go over to my parents, the sister and her kids (now ages 5 through 10) are usually not around, and that point is made clearly. (They are all boys, and rather energetic ones, too)

I am a sucker for cats. I've been around cats my entire youth, and a lot of the people I know have them.

I know I may *try* to go over to pick up a kitten/cat, but whether the kitten/cat WANTS to be picked up/petted at the time is another story entirely. I've been properly trained to let the cat make his/her move towards me first, as the cat decides

Luckily, cats seem to pick up good vibes from me, so that is easy. Cats seem to be good judges of character, methinks.

Linux Lady, this is me too!!! I love baby animals; baby humans...not so much

I don't have any interest in babies either. To me, they are mysterious little creatures that cry and fuss for no reason I can figure out, and are like a time bomb ready to go off without warning. I'm much more drawn to baby (and adult) animals. I like WELL-BEHAVED older kids I can interact with. There's a ten-year-old boy in the neighborhood who sometimes helps me wash my car. It's a treat for him. His parents don't seem to do much with him or his siblings, and he's often riding his bike aimlessly around our street. He's a smart kid and I enjoy talking to him, and trying to give him some positive influence. But if someone comes by with a stroller with a baby or toddler in it, I'll stay as far away as possible.

If someone tries to entice me to hold my new niece/nephew after he/she is here for "practice", I'll just tell them "No practice needed...I'm not having any!" Or I'll fake an illness....

Cindy

I have one of those faces that shows my emotion whether I want to or not. In other words, I really can't lie. So when I walk in the door at someone's house and see a kid, it's obvious that I'm not enjoying the sight of it. But when I see an animal, well, I'm smiles and rainbows. People usually get the hint (unintentional) without me saying anything.

The only time I work well with kids is if they're old enough to talk and we happen to watch the same anime. Of course, that just weirds the parents out.

I am dreading the day my SIL gives birth ... should be about 18 days now. I'm waiting for the bingos, which had stopped for a while ....

Also, I find myself already wanting to not want anything to do with this kid. I am very close to my nephews (who are my sister's sons.)

But for some reason, I feel like I give this baby too much attention everyone will start up with the bingos. Also, my relationship with my SIL has suffered since she treated me badly during the planning of her wedding, and so I kind of don't want to put her in the center of MY attention, since her being the center of attention is what aggravates me so much. It's so complicated.

I'm also so sick of hearing about her and the stupid pregnancy that I'm having a hard time being happy for her, which is something I've been struggling with since she announced she was pregnant.

Also, DH was gushing last night about how cute it was that you can see the baby move, like when it stretches, part of her stomach moves out. He said her shirt doesn't cover her stomach when she sits down. I said, "how come they don't make maternity clothes anymore?" He said she WAS wearing maternity clothes. I said, "I meant the kind that isn't skin tight." Come on, I know she's a skinny little thing, but I really don't need to see every curve of her body. I think it's inappropriate!

I'm glad I'm not eating dinner now...gross

That's sickening - the whole thought of your stomach looking like it's about to open up to reveal an alien symbiote is just weird. How could anybody find that cute? Will it be as cute when her tummy muscles don't bounce back after birth?

Eww...that is so creepy when people do that! Totally reminds me of the movie Alien. A coworker once wanted to show the movement to me and even said "put your hand on my belly so you can feel it too"...needless to say I graciously let someone else have that experience.

Duane, I totally felt like doing that this weekend (the major flip out, not dropping babies, lol). I have basically told my nearest and dearest to stop it, no joke, because soon I will be at the point where I don't want to come hang out anymore. This is close friends, and family, included. They've kept the prodding to a minimum since then, but there's that disconnect between us now, like I scolded them for being naughty and they are afraid to say the wrong thing around me (and I'm certain I've been the topic of conversation behind my back due to this, but I'm sorry--I never should have had to put my foot down like that!)

I don't insult them for having their broods. In fact, I'm glad they all keep popping them out, because I know the population won't dwindle anytime soon!

Unfortunately, I don't go on psychotic rampages with people I barely know, so I pretty much kept my mouth shut this weekend, when I was at a party with my boyfriend's friends. I'm lucky to have a supportive guy, but he still doesn't get it. Most women get it worse than men, I think, although you seem to get your share of the bingos. I still think bachelor, childfree men are viewed as suave and cool and single, childfree women more like spinsters.

It sucks that we have to get angry and cause a scene in order to be taken seriously....anyway, good luck, ilove! hopefully you won't get bingoed too much and you can enjoy your new niece or nephew without feeling uncomfortable. and despite my own anger, i do think that the childed aren't trying to make us sad and angry, they just feel strongly enough about their choice that they think they can force it onto us.