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Yes, this is the question that I was asked, by a friend of my boyfriend's, at a super bowl party on Sunday.

When I replied in the affirmative (none of your f-ing business came to mind, but I restrained myself for my boyfriend's sake) he then said, "What would you do if (my boyfriend) switched your pills for breath mints?"

at which point, my sweet boyfriend intervened before I could pounce on him by simply saying "we don't want kids". (Met with gasps and WHY NOT?s and the like, of course.)

This person is a stranger to me. We've socialized a total, including Sunday, of three times. And he is asking about my contraceptive choices! I suppose he's entitled to, since he just became a daddy. I was shocked and [censored] at the rudeness, but more so because questions like that are just the NORM. Somehow, it's become universally acceptable to pick apart people who don't want kids.

I am getting all angry again, so I"m going to stop ranting. Just wanted to share this with you guys, I know you'll "get it"!!

O_O My response to that question would be "I would kill him by reaching down his throat and tearing off his testicles." That anyone could even THINK of "replacing the pills with breath mints" I view that as a supreme violation of the body, akin to rape. (and yes, I view it the same way when a woman pulls an "oops" on a boyfriend/mate just so she can itch that baby disease)

Did you ask him if that's how HE became a daddy?! What a jerk.

Unfortunately I tend to freeze up in shock with crazy things like that are said to me.

I think I would have needed to be restrained from punching the guy in the face though!

I can see why you're still angry about it. I would be too.

After my ex-husband left me on the heels of me discovering the affair he was having and returned to Mother England, I discovered that he was planning on doing just this.

I found emails from his Mother and someone on an immigration board advising him to get me pregnant with an anchor child then no matter what happened to our marriage, he would have a right to stay in the US.

I even found where his Mother sent him baby aspirin from the US that looked just like my birth control pills. My pills are NOT the same color as the baby aspirin here in the states.

Luckily he hadn't gotten around to it.

As far as someone asking a question like that, I don't care whose friend he is, I would have told him I thought it was a crass question.

Ahhhh, life in the 20's, I remember it well...

You won't have this kind of monkey sh!t in your 30s, so you can at least look forward to aging a little in grace.

I would have said

'Well, the first time I would have known is when I missed a period, realised I was pregnant.... at which point I would kill the baby and get on with my life, why? what would you do?'

That's the thing.. morons like that assume that when the woman is pregnant, she'll keep it... sorry, but even if something like that DID happen.. the woman still has the choice not to go through with the pregnancy....

Thankfully my boyfriend is not that stupid, sounds like yours isn't either!

Um, wouldn't a woman notice if she was taking breath mints instead of the little pills that come in the special foil wrapper? Seriously, are there people who fall for this? I mean, they don't come out of an aspirin bottle or something!

Exactly. Inappropriateness of the question aside, my pills come in a little card where you push them through the foil individually each day, and it would be pretty evident if they were tampered with...

I wouldn't imagine asking ANYONE that question. A question like that falls into the category of 'What is your favorite sexual position'. I wouldn't ask that of any friend, male or female.

But then I was taught to respect people's privacy. I guess some others, like those mentioned in this thread, just didn't go to tact class.