BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids "Mommy Talk"......why does it always lead to this?

Sometimes I think that my husband doesn't believe me when I tell him that I don't always like going to events where my closest friends are because the conversation about babies and what comes out of them gets SO OLD. He probably thinks I exaggerate at times.

WELL....on Sunday we went out to dinner with 3 other couples. One of the women was pregnant, one has two little ones, and one is soon to be TTC. My husband and I were the only CF people there (not unusual). The conversation starts as most directed at the pregnant friend - "So, how are you feeling during your pregnancy? You look great!"....blah blah blah.

Slowly but surely we start talking about one woman's daughter sticking her hand in her DIRTY diaper because she knows something is down there (still learning to potty train) and coming to her with poop all over her hands. Then the conversation leads to how her daughter masterbates and THEN the conversation leads to "Has one of your sons ever come to you and said, 'Mommy, why do I sometimes get a bone in my diaper?'" Then we get into a big conversation about how hard it is to put a diaper on a boy with 'a bone in his diaper' while the whole time everyone but the moms was blushing and completely embarrased by the conversation.

I immediately leaned over to my husband to inform him that this is how conversations ALWAYS go with my friends and asked him if he could understand why I don't like being around that and why I don't attend baby showers anymore. I think we made a step forward because he now knows that I DONT exaggerate when it comes to "mommy talk" in my circle of friends.

How mortifying!!

Oh, can I say any louder - Welcome to the Midwest?! (reference to previous post)

That is the most disgusting exchange I've ever heard at a dinner table. I would have been so uncomfortable that if it went on past a few subtle hints like abruptly changing the subject or flat-out requesting a new topic, I would have had to leave, and I'm dead serious about that.

Babies' boners? Child masturbation? Hand-fecal issues? Oh HELL no.

I realize that if you were the only CF couple in a crowd of 4 couples, they may think it's entertaining to discuss such inappropriateness during dinner. That's exactly why I don't hang with parents much, and when I do, it's 1-on-1 or couple-with-couple. Smaller groups force parents to stick to things that are interesting to their audience, which do NOT include their children or their disgusting antics. When you pack the group with parents, well...go figure.

OMG I still can't believe they were talking like that in an adult social setting.

Ha ha Katie--that does sound totally mortifying--especially the dirty diaper thing; can someone please call the health department!? At least your husband knows now what it's really like!!! Hopefully you'll be able to get out of more of these outings now

i was getting sick to my stomach just reading your post! OMG i give you a lot of credit for making it through the night.i think (i could be wrong) with men they dont' understand as much b/c it seems like men talk about other things whereas with women the topic seems to revolve around kids. that's why at parties esp. i tend to hang around the men longer than the women.

i agree that maybe in the future you could limit your interactions with your friends to a more one on one situation. hopefully that will work better.

by the way i'm glad i already had lunch!

indigo

Angela - I didn't think about it possibly being entertaining for the parents to discuss such inappropriate things during dinner. They probably do get some sort of weird kick out of it.

The thing that I don't understand is those exact same people (with the exception of the pregnant one) coming to me on a regular basis asking "When are you having kids?". Are you FREAKIN KIDDING ME?!??! The pregnant one is very adamant about waiting as long as you possibly can to start a family and I appreciate her for that - even though she may not realize how incredibly long we'll wait. ;-)

Thankfully, only one of my friends has entered Parent Land so I have not been subjected to any nasty dinner conversations.

I guess the only thing you could do that might wake them up is say, "Gee... your dinner looks like a barbequed turd" and see how they respond. I'm not sure of any other way to point out that they topped out on the gross factor.

EW EW EW!

Although a friend of mine says her colleagues like to discuss their favourite sexual positions and ask her what's hers - which to me is just as bad! (I mean, we're talking COLLEAGUES NOT FRIENDS and being ASKED that information, NOT volunteering it!)

No thanks to EITHER of those conversations! (The baby gross out one OR the sex one!)

How did you manage to eat with those conversations going on? I mean, wow.

Interesting though that they'll still pressure you to have kids when their dinner conversation has been reduced to these levels.