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thanks Lynne, i'm glad your friend is o.k

Yikes Skyhaven that is an awful way to live! That must just chip away at you every day, to have that stress surrounding you. I live in Massachusetts and I didn't know there was anywhere around here that could be like that! I suppose maybe in one of the three big cities (Boston, Worcester, Springfield). I'm so sorry you're in a place like that - is there any hope of moving somewhere safer? So many studies show that constant stress like that can literally take years off your life ...

Lynne - that is really disturbing that they wouldn't alert the population to the problem. I mean, people would definitely take extra precautions if they knew there was someone out there actively stalking women and it might have saved a few women from harm.

In Massachusetts the taser is illegal. I would REALLY like to be able to have a taser. I know this is going to be a bit un-PC, but I own a gun and am a target shooter. I like archery too. So I would be able to defend myself if a burglar or rapist came into the house. But MANY women cannot. I am fine that many women do not like firearms. But if they could have a taser by the bed, that would make a HUGE difference in their ability to remain safe.

I mean, butcher knives are nice - but they still require strength and skill to use ... they can easily be turned against you.

Scary.

Our bathroom doors don't lock - in fact none of our interior doors have locks. Also, our bathroom doors are sliding doors. I usually just flick the door closed as I go in.

I grew up with very paranoid Mom (she just passed away at 90 and still as paranoid as when I was a kid). So I had a lot of unreasonable fears to over come in my 20's & 30's. Now in my late 50's I am fine but that programing sure stuck with me for a long time.
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I suppose it's hard to find a balance between staying safe and being stressed out all the time. I mean, I wouldn't walk down a dark alley in a big city at night all by myself. But on the other hand, I wouldn't hide in my house all day long and never go into the city because I might be attacked there.

I suppose part of it is how it makes you feel too. I wouldn't feel stressed out having a Taser in my bed drawer. I probably wouldn't even think about it, and if I did, it would give me a safe feeling. I don't know how I would feel about having a butcher knife sitting by my bed I'd probably worry that I'd wake up in the middle of the night to a burglar holding it to my throat ...

I used to have a big pocket knife opened and inunder my pillow at night so that I would have it just incase.. It made me feel safe it was dull and would not cut hot butter but if I was scared enough i could have stabed the [censored] out of someone!!! I alway figured that if i laid still like i was asleep and they lend over to get me I could stab them before they knew what hit them. I had a friend that did that to an attacker she shoved the knife up under his ribs and hit the main blood vains... It saved her life and he died quickly...

OK now a pocket knife I could understand, having a "last ditch but not pointy" weapon under the pillow. That way the attacker wouldn't be able to see it - but you would have something in that final emergency if you really needed it.

For me though - I'd have it closed!! That way you wouldn't stab yourself in your sleep. What if you rolled over oddly? You could always open it up easily enough with one hand Or a switchblade with a safety lock ...

As long as you're not a princess and the pea person who can feel the lump under your pillow ...

I'm glad your friend was ok!

I never lock anything in the daytime and only main entry doors at night. I never lock the bathroom door at all. I always announce when I'm heading to the bathroom. I make sure everyone knows this is my time. lol.

Bathroom doors should have a little spinny dial on them that say "occupied" like the ones on airplanes do That way someone doesn't walk in by accident on someone else