Melanie,
I found your post because my wife left this window open on our computer. Being a guy, I don't completely understand what you are going through, but I know first hand the pain my wife and I went through with both of our miscarriages. Many people don't understand the loss you feel after a miscarriage. We were both so sick of hearing "it happened for a reason." As well as many other comments... There's nothing I can tell you that will take away your pain. Just like no one could tell me anything. I'm a guy, I should just deal with it (I heard and felt this from many...) We had two miscarriages back to back and I can tell you I don't think I'll ever fully get over that pain. Seeing a heartbeat and then it's gone... worst feeling I've had in my life.
My family was there for us as times and other times not so much. I suspect they didn't know how to handle this as no women in my family had gone through this before. I could probably write a book on this, but I'll spare you!
We were at an all time low there for a while and it was so hard going to the doctor knowing what was coming and seeing all these pregnant women come in the waiting room and complain about the aches and pains of being pregnant. It killed me knowing my wife had to listen to that. It killed me watching our neighbor smoke like a chimney her whole pregnancy and have a healthy baby. Some days, I'd be angry and other days just wonder why us?
It was hard for us because we didn't hear many success stories. We'd read in forums where women had multiple miscarriages, then post that they are 10 weeks, etc. along and then never post back. It felt like once you had a couple of miscarriages... things were stacked against you. It's been a long road for us, but I'm happy to say we are finally almost 29 weeks pregnant with a girl. So miracles can happen. I know it's hard, but try to think positively and know that against all odds, miracles can happen!
