BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids MNK New Year's Resolutions

So, realise that this is a little late, but I was wondering what all of you are resolving or hoping to do in 2008? Are there any big plans afoot?

To start here are some of ours
- we're both applying for new jobs
- I hopefully find out on the 15th if I've been accepted into a Graduate Law Program
- The usual ones about health & fitness
- Spend more time with our dogs and each other.

Eat healthy.
Not complain.
Run 20 miles a month.

I am thinking about retiring from teaching in about 8 years. My goal this year is to begin looking at business opportunities that both my husband and I can be involved with together. He currently has his own business that he runs from the house. Helping him with his new business has given me the inspiration that this is something that I would also like to do once I am retired.

Short term goals are to make new friends, exercise, and try to maintain a more positive attitude.

Wow, those sound great!

Wow guys, those are great. I especially like the "Not complain" and "maintain a more positive attitude" ones.

I hadn't thought about it, but finding a good job is definitely on my list. Try to reduce stress. I really need to do that. And to exercise, and lose like ten pounds.

The positive attitude thing really helps. I notice when I'm being negative I just feel [censored]. I have to learn not to dwell on stuff that bugs me, which I think goes along with being positive.

These are great. I share many of those.

A few more of mine:

-keep in better touch with friends
-write cards and letters to loved ones more frequently
-not be so quick to rise to anger
-ignore trolls

Haha Frieda!

Better stay out of that 'A Question' thread then Frieda, heh heh.

My resolution is pretty boring:
Lose weight
Get healthy.

So far I'm failing miserably. I think I might have to shoot the horse to get back on it.

Oh yummy, I can talk about NY Resolutions for hours - I just love visualising all the great possibilities in life and dreaming about what I am going to do. I also love any opportunity for a fresh start :-)

Well, I am very proud because two weeks into January, I have already started living some of mine. I prefer to call them "New Year Focusses" as opposed to "resolutions" - it feels less obligatory that way to me.

I have decided that this year I am living life a bit differently. A lot of it has to do with being a bit easier on myself, doing what nurtures me and enjoying life's simple pleasures.

OK, here we go:

- I have a new job that is not so demanding of my time and emotions (the last one was really full on, and in this one I am working for a bigger and better resourced company and my responsibilities are more focussed), so....to take an hour break most days at around 2-3pm (instead of a lunchbreak - will eat at my desk) and fully utilise what our city has to offer (my new office is right in the middle of it all). In my first week I have gone to the art gallery, joined the library, sat in a park, and met a friend for coffee in a square under a tree in the sun. This is so wonderful for me because in my last job I never left my desk.

-to ensure I make time for dreaming and creative work. Because of my busy life and a house where it's difficult to get away and not be interrupted, I have to snatch time and space cleverly. Ideas are: take more baths (I can have some of my best ideas in the bath), write in my notebook on the bus, go for more walks (I live by a beach for heavens sake and scarcely go there), go to the art gallery and library in lunchtimes, and spend time alone in cafes with my notebook and laptop. Also have decided that two afternoons a week I will finish work at 5-5.30 and then go for an hour to the library to write, where I won't be interrupted and I will also avoid rush hour traffic.

-Lots of work on our home. I am suddenly motivated to get domestic - have got into gardening over this summer break and am so loving going out to water my herbs etc. (the last 4 years work took over my life, including early mornings and evenings and weekends). I am Libran and all my 08 horoscopes say we will be focussed on the home this year.

-I have listed "words" as one of my focusses - that means more writing, reading, and I would like to do some study on grammar, editing and language to improve my technical and base knowledge and discipline.

-Walk more places and sometimes do my favourite things which are 1. To don a small backpack with a bottle of water, snack, book and notebook and walk for miles around the city and 2. Walk along Auckland's wild West Coast beaches on Sunday mornings.

-This is an important one that was prompted by my hideous NY Eve (a post about this coming soon) where I was bingoed non-bloody-stop by my husband's gang of friends and I went home in tears (thereby starting the first hours of 2008 an emotional wreck). I have decided to focus my social time on people who really matter, who uplift me, understand me and don't put pressure on me. The others will have less energy and time from me. And like many of you, I am going to make more effort to communicate with friends and family who matter. A friend of mine who is a dancer in Europe and travels all the time, carries with him a set of postcards and cards, plus local stamps for the country he is in. Whenever he has a moment, eg half an hour waiting for a train etc, he writes a card quickly and posts it. It is lovely getting his occasional cards. I would like to start that this year - I have a drawerful of cards already.

-Get up early some weekend morning and go to farmers markets.

-And the final one? I would like to fully and happily come to terms with the fact that I am not going to have children and stop feeling my deep insecurity and inadequacy about not being a "grown-up". I'm tired and exhausted from it, and I want to move forward peacefully and with strength in my CF life. You guys are really going to help me with this and I have made huge progress since finding you all.

I have been quite inspired about you all, in various posts and blogs, enjoy the benefits of the freedom of being childfree, and I started asking myself "WHY?", ie "Why don't I walk on the beach more?", "Why don't I spend time in the library writing?" etc.

Love, Feebee (feeling very warm inside today about all you wonderful people and so glad you are out there!)