BellaOnline Forums Relationships Married No Kids A question?

There is plenty here that doesn't relate to parent-bashing. I've only been here a short time and I know that. But this also happens to be a safe place (from what I've seen) for people who want to vent about stuff that might relate to bad parent-bashing. God knows, we put up with enough bigotry that if we want to vent, I'm so happy to know this place exists for us.

If someone comes here and doesn't like it, okay... move along. Plus they are wrong if they think only parent-bashing happens here. There's a lot of other stuff here.

First of all, maybe you haven't realized that WE DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU.

I have already banished you once, you self-satisfied prick.

We are a group of individuals with at least one thing in common, not a group on a mission, and you cannot pigeonhole any of us that way any more than we can pigeonhole parents.

And in case you didn't read my previous post (SHOCKER -- you haven't read our past threads either except the truemomconfessions), some people who post in here aren't at peace with the decision to breed or not breed. Some people aren't super-confident like yourself. They come here for understanding. They come here for support. They come here for many reasons, and if they want to compare their lives to someone else's, so what?

I'll take your question and address it head-on.

Why the negative posts? Maybe some people are fed up with coworkers, parents, mentors, doctors and the rest of society pressuring and questioning them. Maybe they go home and night and feel lonely or wonder if they're missing out on something. Maybe they can't have kids, and there was no decision. Maybe they DO feel insecure sometimes, and one of the only ways they've found so far, until they GET more comfortable in a decision or in their own skin in general, is to start by making a comparison of their life to someone in a worse situation. Do you know what that's called, Zuzu? That's called human nature.

They didn't read the same "Confidence is an Inside Job" manual you did, and maybe they missed the day in school when the lecture on "Total Inner Peace" was taught. I'm really sure they appreciate your barging in here and shining a bright light in their faces.

Snooks, you rock.

Quick question - is there somebody that we can report this person to? Surely it's against some code of conduct.

Actually the Terms of Service state, in part
"You further agree not to use BellaOnline to send or post on message boards or any place on BellaOnline, any message or material that is unlawful, harassing, libelous, defamatory, abusive, threatening, harmful, vulgar, obscene, profane,..." so in fact Ingilbert is in violation with their latest posting.
I have maintained a kindly tone and asked a question that was worded politely and articulately. The responses provided have opened my eyes, yes - but not in your favor.
If you wish to move or delete this thread, by all means do so.
I would think you welcome the chance to have your collective embarassing remarks removed.
I am not amongst adults here, this is obvious.

Your questions were answered, Zuzu. Move along, please. Thanks.

I thought Miss High and Mighty was leaving. Oh, wait, that's right, she's a troll!

Actually, I am a "her", not a "their."

Sorry if I inflamed the situation - I was just slightly offended by the way that she insulted the dialogue and other elements of this board. I think it was in breach of the code of conduct. I liken it to a group therapy session. It's a place where people feel safe and deserve to be able to state their views without judgement against them. You wouldn't just barge in there and question people's way of life.