Some sibling relationships have been ruined or at least drastically changed due to the in-law. Many times the way your brother or sister allows their spouse to treat your parents can be an eye opener. Here's a real life example given to me "My father was living with my brother and his wife for a few months. After he died, my sister in-law was cleaning out his room and decided to just throw away family pictures! She knows all of her sister and brother in-laws and speaks with us frequently, but didn't think to ask if anyone wanted the family pictures. How disrespectful. I bet she wouldn't have thrown away her family pictures. The thing is my brother knows how disrespectful she has been to my parents and never says anything. She knows how to get him to do or say whatever she wants, to regardless of the truth."
Another example "My brother didn't think there was anything wrong with his wife inviting only her family to his son's first birthday party and leaving out his family. We all live in the same town. They finally invited my mother because he didn't want her to be upset later, but he had no problem with his wife's mother being the first one invited. He grew up in a close family and had previously been close to our mother but as soon as he got married he allowed his wife to dictate everything. He never took his son to visit our elderly mother. It was his job, not his wife's job to keep his side of the family involved in his son's life."
Is it just the men or our brothers who turn a deaf ear and blind eye towards their family when they get married? Do sisters react this way too? I understand our spouse's come first (biblical teaching) but how far is this suppose to go?
I'd like to hear from you!
Last edited by Nina - Siblings; 12/31/07 12:44 AM.
