Hello... I am having a real conflict here and struggle with an ongoing issue , I was hoping someone could help me understand my responsibilities , as a step mother of adult children ages 32 , 36

Here is the issue i am having in a nut shell and that is having to spend Christmas eve's with my husbands x, my step childrens mother

I get along fine with my husbands x, i treat her with respect and she treats me with respect........ I just do not believe that I have to spend Christmas eve with her... lol
My step daughter seems to think that this is part of my responsiblities as a step parent

I feel very uncomfortable in this situation, but i have went along with it now for 4 yrs, my husband does not feel he should have to spend Christmas with his x either , after all he and i have been married now for 26 yrs

what i want to do is suggest to her that she spend her christmas with her mom on C-Eve and have dinner with her on Christmas day (as this is what she wants to do )... but perhaps she can come with her brother here and boxing day...or we can go to her home , take turns....

Am I suppose to suck it up ? this according to gossip within the 5 kids ... is the thought my step daughter is having

Last edited by Rene2; 12/24/07 03:07 PM.